I don't think anyone values silence these days. I'm not really talking about absolute silence, I mean... does there always have to be someting to say?

Do we always have to have an opinion or an answer to everything. Since when does my silence, or lack of things to talk about become offensive to someone else. Because I have nothing to say, doesn't mean I don't want to talk to you. Because I don't bloat an answer with a million words, that doesn't mean I'm being dismissive.

Most of the people know me would probably say that I have no problem talking, but at the asme time would probably be describe me as silent, and the quite type. Maybe? You tell me.

It's true, it takes some time for me to warm up to people, but I think thats true for everyone. I don't think I've ever just thrown myself into the mix without feeling totally comfortable. I guess my friends are my friends because they understand that everything that comes out of my mouth isn't poignant , poetic or thought invoking, I don't have to pad a conversation, when I want to talk I talk, when I want to listen, I listen and when I want to shout something random, its appreciated (I hope)

Some people aren't this way, some people wouldn't get me because of a huge generation gap, or a difference in style, taste or culture, and those people get silence. What bothers me is how those people could be offended.

If I didn't want to be around you, I wouldn't be there, I wouldn't just show up and sit there silent and for asshole's sake. I'm not talking because I have nothing to say, I have nothing to add to the current conversation. Your attempt at sparking a conversation has been noticed but I don't feel like I should be forced to talk to you. Look, I like you, or I wouldn't be around. If I have something to say, I'll say it. If your question requires more than 1 word, you'll get them, and if it happens to spark an interest, something we can both agree on being conversational, we'll talk, and I won't stop talking.

I don't think anyone values silence these days. I'm not really talking about absolute silence, I mean... does there always have to be someting to say?

Do we always have to have an opinion or an answer to everything. Since when does my silence, or lack of things to talk about become offensive to someone else. Because I have nothing to say, doesn't mean I don't want to talk to you. Because I don't bloat an answer with a million words, that doesn't mean I'm being dismissive.

Most of the people know me would probably say that I have no problem talking, but at the asme time would probably be describe me as silent, and the quite type. Maybe? You tell me.

It's true, it takes some time for me to warm up to people, but I think thats true for everyone. I don't think I've ever just thrown myself into the mix without feeling totally comfortable. I guess my friends are my friends because they understand that everything that comes out of my mouth isn't poignant , poetic or thought invoking, I don't have to pad a conversation, when I want to talk I talk, when I want to listen, I listen and when I want to shout something random, its appreciated (I hope)

Some people aren't this way, some people wouldn't get me because of a huge generation gap, or a difference in style, taste or culture, and those people get silence. What bothers me is how those people could be offended.

If I didn't want to be around you, I wouldn't be there, I wouldn't just show up and sit there silent and for asshole's sake. I'm not talking because I have nothing to say, I have nothing to add to the current conversation. Your attempt at sparking a conversation has been noticed but I don't feel like I should be forced to talk to you. Look, I like you, or I wouldn't be around. If I have something to say, I'll say it. If your question requires more than 1 word, you'll get them, and if it happens to spark an interest, something we can both agree on being conversational, we'll talk, and I won't stop talking. But why do I have to talk to make you feel comfortable? Talking when I don't want to talk makes me feel uncomfortable.

so·cial (s--'sh?l) pronunciation
adj.

1.
1. Living together in communities.
2. Of or relating to communal living.
3. Of or relating to human society and its modes of organization: social classes; social problems; a social issue.
2. Living together in organized groups or similar close aggregates: Ants are social insects.
3. Involving allies or members of a confederacy.
4. Of or relating to the upper classes.
5.
1. Inclined to seek out or enjoy the company of others; sociable.
2. Spent in or marked by friendly relations or companionship.
3. Intended for convivial activities.
6. Of, relating to, or occupied with matters affecting human welfare: social programs.

n.

I don't see anything in there about talking to you to make you feel better about being around me. I'm in your presence, I make eye contact when needed, I smile, I say thank you, I say please. I'm polite. I laugh at your jokes because they're funny. I really do like you. But don't be offended because I don't always have something to say.

I'm a listener, even if I don't always pay attention. I watch even if I don't always remember. I'd much rather write the script than act it out. Thats who I am, thats what I'll be forever and ever. Deal with it. It doesn't mean I hate you.

No one appreciates how itimate silence can be. How silence can say more than words sometimes.

Anyway... I guess I hope some people read this and give me some feedback.
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