If I am honest, will you believe me? I suspect if you are reading this journal, you have reason to like me; but I am inclined to ask for a little faith here. Suspend disbelief for a few minutes. Just a bit.
When I say that I am at peace with the woman from the "best date ever", its true. Everything happens as it's meant...
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When I say that I am at peace with the woman from the "best date ever", its true. Everything happens as it's meant...
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So I got the "lets be friends letter" today. Sometimes its called "the dreaded LBFL" but I am really happy about it. It banishes all unrealistic expectations and sets the boundries of our relationship, and I do really like her and want to be friends (oh here I go being one of those "pansy boys" that the "moderator" of the "unnamed dating newsgroup" accused me...
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molonel:
You get active on the site, and meet people at open events, and things start happening.
Funny how it works, isn't it?
You don't have to tell me I'm right. We'll keep it a secret just between you and me.
Funny how it works, isn't it?
You don't have to tell me I'm right. We'll keep it a secret just between you and me.
gadget:
he was, but he was always obsessed with how he was old. He was 23 years old and he would get really freaked out when we would hang out with my sister was only 17 or 18 at the time and her friends.
It got really old really fast cause i love hanging out with my sister.
It got really old really fast cause i love hanging out with my sister.
So enough SG drama. . . now back to my personal journal. My date from last week (hereafter reffered to as "the best date ever") hasn't contacted me. Its understandable, but still a little sad (in a good way, Im not whining or complaining)
It was one date. I have another date with someone else back home. I met her around Xmass, and between meeting...
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It was one date. I have another date with someone else back home. I met her around Xmass, and between meeting...
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welntaod:
My heart goes out to you, friend! It seems most of my friend base are having female problems en masse. I've been in situations similar to yours and 9 times out of ten, I've always felt like a twit for sitting by the telephone, staring at the receiver.
I have no doubts that she's a vision worthy of being kept up at 4am...
Best of luck keeping the PDX Geezers event ball rolling! Participation in CT leaves a lot to be desired so, establishing momentum in events takes work. Most of all, I hope you're well.
I have no doubts that she's a vision worthy of being kept up at 4am...
Best of luck keeping the PDX Geezers event ball rolling! Participation in CT leaves a lot to be desired so, establishing momentum in events takes work. Most of all, I hope you're well. 
elmcitydrunk:
i admire your general optamism in this situation. i'm not great at advice, but i would encourage you to keep being social and keep having fun. it's a weakness of mine at times, but i've rarely regretted making new friends.
So I used to belong to this SG group (whose name I wont mention), about dating. I start noticing that there are a group of guys who constantly denigrate "women" in general, and some of the women in this group in particular. Now as the child of a single mother, who worked all the time to support us, I take offense to this. So the...
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artenysis:
I like you. Thanks for being likeable. 
schoolgirl:
proud to call ya my friend, why haven't we talked sooner? your journals are awesome.
there are way too many comments like that and people with that mentality. while i am not a feminist, I am an equalist. Two different things.
does that guy wanna heat about bitchy, lazy, stupid women? ok here goes... I am a mommy. I am educated and I use my degree as a chemist every day. I take care of my home, cook, clean, raise a baby by myself, get a tiny bit of child support and no settlement, until my divorce supported a husband who didn't want to work or help out, was abused and destroyed by him, am completely broke and in debt, and never ever expected help, welfare, complained, or asked for money. I live a respectable life with a hard earned paycheck every week, a perfectly clean home, and a happy and healthy child who gets a homecooked meal and all of the energy I have left to play every night.
I handle everything and don't consider myself and cliche "strong woman." I consider myself a person and a parent doing what is right for my family and I take a great deal of pride in that.
glad you let him know that his manners are crappy and quit the group. you did the right thing there and he is completely ridiculous.
PS. we want you to apply for SGNJ. people are nice and silly there. and we all like you...
there are way too many comments like that and people with that mentality. while i am not a feminist, I am an equalist. Two different things.
does that guy wanna heat about bitchy, lazy, stupid women? ok here goes... I am a mommy. I am educated and I use my degree as a chemist every day. I take care of my home, cook, clean, raise a baby by myself, get a tiny bit of child support and no settlement, until my divorce supported a husband who didn't want to work or help out, was abused and destroyed by him, am completely broke and in debt, and never ever expected help, welfare, complained, or asked for money. I live a respectable life with a hard earned paycheck every week, a perfectly clean home, and a happy and healthy child who gets a homecooked meal and all of the energy I have left to play every night.
I handle everything and don't consider myself and cliche "strong woman." I consider myself a person and a parent doing what is right for my family and I take a great deal of pride in that.
glad you let him know that his manners are crappy and quit the group. you did the right thing there and he is completely ridiculous.
PS. we want you to apply for SGNJ. people are nice and silly there. and we all like you...
Hey NJ!!! You guys ROCK!! Great time at the club. Got to meet a bunch of good folks and have a good time. Thank you to schoolgirl for inviting me to the pre club mixer, Irena for the smokes, and steve and Kat (cant remember your usernames, sorry) for the pool. Definatly want to hang out again, maybe someplace that serves alcohol? somebody get that...
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rubysparkle:
I think what's harrasing is all those guys making awful, hateful statements. Those statements are what make a lot of women feel unsafe. I havn't seen any hateful,statements made by women about men. There might be, but I havn't seen them.
I find that a lot of those guys get pissed off because I'm able to back up my thoughts with scientific, research reviews. Then some of them make nasty comments about "educated" women. Quotation marks are theirs, not mine.I'm suprised they're members of SG as this is quite the feminist site. Anyhow, keep posting as you are one of the few male voices in the group that is rational, educated and reasonable.
I find that a lot of those guys get pissed off because I'm able to back up my thoughts with scientific, research reviews. Then some of them make nasty comments about "educated" women. Quotation marks are theirs, not mine.I'm suprised they're members of SG as this is quite the feminist site. Anyhow, keep posting as you are one of the few male voices in the group that is rational, educated and reasonable.
rubysparkle:
I used to be a "hell no that's wrong" girl but then I was accused of being emotional and uppity. Then when I pull out my smart girl education side I get insulted for that too. Oh well. Some people are silly.
tall:
non SG NY pics
tall:
sushi in NYC
well. I called her today (the day after the date) and said I like you, had agreat time, and I am thinking of going to the Met(ropolatain Museum of Art) on sunday, want to join me. So far no response (12 hours, but whose counting). and while part of me is on needles and pins, the larger part of m feels very calm and happy....
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sweetbuns:
I did enjoy myself.
southernbelle:
Check your email!!
Just woke up after SGNYs open event, and I have to say the SGNY people were VERY friendly and open. I had a great time, got to meet: Freyja (briefly), Whoseyourlibra, GrumpyBea, smellinoftroy, livingoutloud and dimnova. All great folks who made me feel like I was back home. Love ya all 
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tall:
(mouth drops open in utter shock) 
heartyou:
Friendly guy
Had fun this year in New York city of New Years! Didnt have to be drunk- I had a car to drive so two glasses of wine and a toast at midnight was it for me. Then I wandered around for three hours till I was stone cold sober before I got behind the wheel.
I love watching the amatures try drink like I used...
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I love watching the amatures try drink like I used...
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raeka:
glad your new years was great thank you so much for the comment sweetie.... sadness why are all the good guys in portland? go make all the good guys stop hiding there and come down to LA!! hehehe
Hope your weekend is going well ..
xoxo
glad your new years was great thank you so much for the comment sweetie.... sadness why are all the good guys in portland? go make all the good guys stop hiding there and come down to LA!! hehehe
Hope your weekend is going well ..
xoxo
southernbelle:
Thanks for the idea for the boy.... I'll have to remember that one!
I'll have to remember that one! Well Xmass has been survived. The highlights/lowlights:
The low:
Fighting with my exgirlfriend every day. Why cant we just get along? I swear it used to be so easy, but I guess if it was still easy, she wouldnt be my ex.
When I read out the name of my cousins present and everyone thought it was for his recently passed dad (they have the...
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The low:
Fighting with my exgirlfriend every day. Why cant we just get along? I swear it used to be so easy, but I guess if it was still easy, she wouldnt be my ex.
When I read out the name of my cousins present and everyone thought it was for his recently passed dad (they have the...
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tall:
Farewell to the home of my youth.
Farewell to the home of my youth.
not mine but funny:
Winter in a VW Bus
Not a month before Christmas
and all cross the land,
bus owners are driving
with ice scrapers in hand.
They're scraping without
and they're scraping within,
to see where they're going
and where they've just been.
With a little warm air
that passes for heat,
we lose feeling in our fingers
our ears and our feet...
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Winter in a VW Bus
Not a month before Christmas
and all cross the land,
bus owners are driving
with ice scrapers in hand.
They're scraping without
and they're scraping within,
to see where they're going
and where they've just been.
With a little warm air
that passes for heat,
we lose feeling in our fingers
our ears and our feet...
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(I'm just stopping by!)
Catch you around
(I'm just stopping by!)
Catch you around