my speech for the wedding:
I wasnt given the best example of what a constructive relationship shold be, like most of us.
I actually remember being witness to the first healthy relationship in my life and thinking huh, they get along. They may argue a bit, but its constructive......huh.
I personally havent been witness to the majority of nathan and julies relationship.....seeing as they decided along with my older sister and her husband to take off and move here. Mind you anyone who hasnt or doenst one day intend on leaving wetaskiwin should perhapes have their head examinded. Im not saying, im just saying. The wonk does kinda suck.
But in any event, i was only privy to the begining stage of their relationship at an eyes view. And most ppl who stand up for the bride have tons of stories to choose from to embarass them thuroughly in front of the wedding geusts, but i am at a loss. Julie and i are more friends biproxy. We love each other because we love the ppl closest to us so much that we know given the closer kl proximity we would be the best of friends. I onthe other hand do know many stories about the groom. I lived with him when i truely discovered myself. I remember the first time i FINALLY caught him on video dancing. Once i showedit him, he said wait, that is what you guys get to look at when i break it out?! No wonder you are always trying to get it on vid, i freaking rock!!! which you will all be witness to later on if you have not been so lucky to see yet in your lives. Or the time he decided it would be a GRAND idea to jump on my bakc while i was sleeping in MY bed and tickled me awake, to which i involentarily jerked my arms up with my elbows up and hit him really hard. I was still half alseep when he jumped off, walked out the door and anouced to our other roomates ( the best man, the maid of honor and bud) hey heads up everyone, do NOT tickle michi while she is sleeping, unless you would like a bloody nose there are many MANY more stories, but we know them, and im sure mutually would like to keep them to ourselves, enjoying them privately, althought muchly.
And though i may not know julie as well as some brides maids might other brides, i do know this ;
To marry that man, that man who holds a VERY special place in my heart. Even after seeing the worst of him, the darkest spots and the brightest, you my dear are some kind of woman. To be as close to the 3 of my best friends who are up here with us, i dont have to know old embarassing stories to love you. I knew you for a year or so before you moved out here, and you have survived these 3 crazies, you my dear are along side them at the top of my list. At the top of my heart. I do NOT love you by proxy, i love you wholy because you are a part of my adopted family. They say you cant choose family, but i say balox to that. I did. They are up here with us, my family, and you are as big a part of that family as any of them, so i know you, i love you, and i hope i can be there for you the way your hubby has been for me.
Marriges sometimes faulter. And tho like i said previously, i was not given a good example of what works, i was given ample example of what doesnt. When you talk, listen, sometimes its hard to take things constructively. But remember the person who is giving you critisism loves you, chose to be with you. Put your ego aside and listen. Quiet your mind, with every word they are expressing, dont attach it to your own feelings onthe matter, separate it completely from how you feel on the matter and compasionatly feel what they are saying. Put yourself back into the begining when all you felt was adoration, to look at each other and just feel a wash of loving each other completely. That feeling is pure. You get comfortable, and forget that feeling i think. Start to take things the other says harshly. Start to feel things harshly.start to say things harshly. When in reality, even tho sometimes we say hurtful things to each other, really we are just trying to grow. Just trying to better each other, better ourselves. Grow together. Comunicate, even when it hurts. If it hurts too much, take a breath, sometimes seperately.
Love is all you need.
Congradulations. I love you both, and wish you both love together. Thank you so much for making me a part of your day, and your life toether.
tell me what you think <3
I wasnt given the best example of what a constructive relationship shold be, like most of us.
I actually remember being witness to the first healthy relationship in my life and thinking huh, they get along. They may argue a bit, but its constructive......huh.
I personally havent been witness to the majority of nathan and julies relationship.....seeing as they decided along with my older sister and her husband to take off and move here. Mind you anyone who hasnt or doenst one day intend on leaving wetaskiwin should perhapes have their head examinded. Im not saying, im just saying. The wonk does kinda suck.
But in any event, i was only privy to the begining stage of their relationship at an eyes view. And most ppl who stand up for the bride have tons of stories to choose from to embarass them thuroughly in front of the wedding geusts, but i am at a loss. Julie and i are more friends biproxy. We love each other because we love the ppl closest to us so much that we know given the closer kl proximity we would be the best of friends. I onthe other hand do know many stories about the groom. I lived with him when i truely discovered myself. I remember the first time i FINALLY caught him on video dancing. Once i showedit him, he said wait, that is what you guys get to look at when i break it out?! No wonder you are always trying to get it on vid, i freaking rock!!! which you will all be witness to later on if you have not been so lucky to see yet in your lives. Or the time he decided it would be a GRAND idea to jump on my bakc while i was sleeping in MY bed and tickled me awake, to which i involentarily jerked my arms up with my elbows up and hit him really hard. I was still half alseep when he jumped off, walked out the door and anouced to our other roomates ( the best man, the maid of honor and bud) hey heads up everyone, do NOT tickle michi while she is sleeping, unless you would like a bloody nose there are many MANY more stories, but we know them, and im sure mutually would like to keep them to ourselves, enjoying them privately, althought muchly.
And though i may not know julie as well as some brides maids might other brides, i do know this ;
To marry that man, that man who holds a VERY special place in my heart. Even after seeing the worst of him, the darkest spots and the brightest, you my dear are some kind of woman. To be as close to the 3 of my best friends who are up here with us, i dont have to know old embarassing stories to love you. I knew you for a year or so before you moved out here, and you have survived these 3 crazies, you my dear are along side them at the top of my list. At the top of my heart. I do NOT love you by proxy, i love you wholy because you are a part of my adopted family. They say you cant choose family, but i say balox to that. I did. They are up here with us, my family, and you are as big a part of that family as any of them, so i know you, i love you, and i hope i can be there for you the way your hubby has been for me.
Marriges sometimes faulter. And tho like i said previously, i was not given a good example of what works, i was given ample example of what doesnt. When you talk, listen, sometimes its hard to take things constructively. But remember the person who is giving you critisism loves you, chose to be with you. Put your ego aside and listen. Quiet your mind, with every word they are expressing, dont attach it to your own feelings onthe matter, separate it completely from how you feel on the matter and compasionatly feel what they are saying. Put yourself back into the begining when all you felt was adoration, to look at each other and just feel a wash of loving each other completely. That feeling is pure. You get comfortable, and forget that feeling i think. Start to take things the other says harshly. Start to feel things harshly.start to say things harshly. When in reality, even tho sometimes we say hurtful things to each other, really we are just trying to grow. Just trying to better each other, better ourselves. Grow together. Comunicate, even when it hurts. If it hurts too much, take a breath, sometimes seperately.
Love is all you need.
Congradulations. I love you both, and wish you both love together. Thank you so much for making me a part of your day, and your life toether.
tell me what you think <3
rin:
your love advice is awesome!!!! sooooo good. that last paragraph is pure gold!!!