Have you ever felt unappreciated? Not necessarily for things like holding a door for someone who doesn't say thank you (although, I occassionally want to smack that person), but I'm talking more about the lack of appreciation shown by people you do things for every day.
Day in, and day out, I do things to make sure other people are happy. Most of the time it's not even that much of a conscious decision. I just act. If I see a shirt she'll like, I pick it out for her...if I hear she needs windshield wipers, I run to autozone...if I hear she's sad, I'll buy Ben & Jerry's ice cream and lay there and down a whole pint so that she doesnt feel bad about eating half a pint.
What does a boy have to do to feel as if he's appreciated? I don't require that much attention. I just need to be shown I'm cared for I guess. Just some sign that I'm needed and wanted (yes, in every way).
What do I do?
Day in, and day out, I do things to make sure other people are happy. Most of the time it's not even that much of a conscious decision. I just act. If I see a shirt she'll like, I pick it out for her...if I hear she needs windshield wipers, I run to autozone...if I hear she's sad, I'll buy Ben & Jerry's ice cream and lay there and down a whole pint so that she doesnt feel bad about eating half a pint.
What does a boy have to do to feel as if he's appreciated? I don't require that much attention. I just need to be shown I'm cared for I guess. Just some sign that I'm needed and wanted (yes, in every way).
What do I do?
I don't mean come out and say "You don't appreciate me. You Suck." Tell her you go out of your way to do things for her, and it makes YOU sad when she doesn't notice.
Careful not to lay blame, or even vaguely seem mad, it'll make her defensive.
At least, that's what I would do, and I have a reasonably good relationship.
[Edited on Mar 03, 2006 11:53AM]
my partner in crime does shit like that for me all the time.....it means the world to me....i mean...not like ben and jerrys or anything but when i am sad he has a bottle of jim beam waiting for me.....
You know I am thinking myself what I do to make my lifemate feel appreciated.....now I am paranoid.
paranoid...drunk...same thing.
and if you feel you are underappreciated you should express your feelings...because if you keep them inside they will explode at an awkward moment....
and we should run into eachother in the food court more often....