Stream of consciousness follows...tomorrow I may change my mind....
As a guy in my 40's it's obvious to me that I'm not the marrying type. However, I do enjoy women and pleasing them. I like to see them smile, to see them satisfied in the bedroom.
I also know that I'm very visual. I meet a women and, although am attracted to their heart, I know that if they haven't a certain physical respect for there bodies that I will not be held by them (or am I saying a certain physical appearance?).
Is this shallow of me? Perhaps. But I have been with many body types, just not women who neglect the upkeep of what essentially is allowing them to move through this life.
To some degree, I sense this reflects on their personal self worth. And that turns me off. Why would anyone neglect the one thing that allows them to feel the world around. Given the huge amount of knowledge related to the upkeep of ones physical manifestation in this plane, what excuse (baring genetic disability) can a healthy person give to not take ownership of what is essentially theirs for life? If you can't respect your own body, will you be able to respect the environment to which you are part off?
Am I shallow because I wish to make love to a women who's taken care of her physical side, not just her financial?
As a man, I am visual. That's a genetic disposition. Can I change that? Tantra teaches one to find sensuality in everything. From an 80 yr old women to the tight bodied 20 year old. There does not exist a Tantric master. Never will. This is known throughout the spiritual world.
There is something fundamental about the male attribute of being visual. You can not change it. So you accept it. Come to terms with it. And judged as shallow? Judged by whom? Hmmmmm.
I am almost 42. Yet everyday I think I am no more ahead than a child. I believe I can love one woman in one moment, and the next love another just as deeply and with as much gratitude that she exists. Yet, I have met women that do not understand this. Am I afraid to commit? Or do I just not understand why others do not have the capacity to love more than one with equal intensity. I do not wish to possess or be possessed. Afraid to commit? Or afraid to be restricted in who I am able to love? Beats me!! I'll get it one day. Probably the moment after my death.
As a guy in my 40's it's obvious to me that I'm not the marrying type. However, I do enjoy women and pleasing them. I like to see them smile, to see them satisfied in the bedroom.
I also know that I'm very visual. I meet a women and, although am attracted to their heart, I know that if they haven't a certain physical respect for there bodies that I will not be held by them (or am I saying a certain physical appearance?).
Is this shallow of me? Perhaps. But I have been with many body types, just not women who neglect the upkeep of what essentially is allowing them to move through this life.
To some degree, I sense this reflects on their personal self worth. And that turns me off. Why would anyone neglect the one thing that allows them to feel the world around. Given the huge amount of knowledge related to the upkeep of ones physical manifestation in this plane, what excuse (baring genetic disability) can a healthy person give to not take ownership of what is essentially theirs for life? If you can't respect your own body, will you be able to respect the environment to which you are part off?
Am I shallow because I wish to make love to a women who's taken care of her physical side, not just her financial?
As a man, I am visual. That's a genetic disposition. Can I change that? Tantra teaches one to find sensuality in everything. From an 80 yr old women to the tight bodied 20 year old. There does not exist a Tantric master. Never will. This is known throughout the spiritual world.
There is something fundamental about the male attribute of being visual. You can not change it. So you accept it. Come to terms with it. And judged as shallow? Judged by whom? Hmmmmm.
I am almost 42. Yet everyday I think I am no more ahead than a child. I believe I can love one woman in one moment, and the next love another just as deeply and with as much gratitude that she exists. Yet, I have met women that do not understand this. Am I afraid to commit? Or do I just not understand why others do not have the capacity to love more than one with equal intensity. I do not wish to possess or be possessed. Afraid to commit? Or afraid to be restricted in who I am able to love? Beats me!! I'll get it one day. Probably the moment after my death.
Perhaps that explains why when I meet a woman and start dating, even after a few dates I may realize that this isn't going to work out (for me), they have already begun to fall in love with me. I am a playful sort, and so never take things too seriously. That makes women feel very comfortable around me very quickly.
I would really enjoy having a few close, intimate lady friends. My profession is full of men, and I crave the female energy (all levels). Well anyway....