Here's something that annoys the fuck out of me.
My best friend lives in a duplex. Her roommate is dating the girl that lives in the other half of the house. She's 19 and has an almost 2 year old.
She comes over to his side of the duplex to sleep with him, shower with him, cook with him...and LEAVES THE BABY NEXT DOOR.
She goes out at night to see him at work (and to sleep with her other boyfriend) AND LEAVES THE BABY AT HOME ALONE.
Sure, she's 19. She wants to go out and have a good time. But, for fuck's sake, she has a child. I'm not saying that I think fun ends when you have a kid, but responsibility and maturity should begin. What the fuck happened to finding a baby-sitter? Bringing the kid with you? Buying a god-damn baby monitor? How about none of the above, for this girl. She actually came over a week ago and told my friend, "I'm going out, the baby is asleep. If you hear her wake up before I get home, don't worry about it. She hasn't learned how to climb out of her crib yet." What the hell? What if that night was the night she learned how to climb out? What if that night she got deathly ill? What if the house caught on fire? There are about a million things that could happen to that baby, alone in that house, but none of them matter because girlie girl wants to go get laid. ARRRGH!
People who have kids and are completely irresponsible with them make me so mad. People that would rather hold their kids in their laps while they drive down the road instead of listening to them whine or cry in their carseat...people like chickie above, who regularly and routinely leave their kids at home alone when they are far too young to be alone...It makes me sick, really. I know, some people get pregnant when they don't want to be, but is it honestly the child's fault? No, and there are ways to be not pregnant or to not have the child once it's born, too, if you think you're not going to be able to take care of it.
Being a cop, once JP heard about it, he was legally bound to take corrective action. He tried finding the number for the girl's parents (because, incidentally, we were acquainted with the girl before she moved next door to my best friend) and by the time he did that, she had gotten home. So, he talked to the people at the Dept. of Child Services who told him that they couldn't do anything about her leaving the baby in her side of the duplex while spending the night in the other side, because people in ritzy neighborhoods in big houses might have bedrooms further away from their children than the distance between her and her baby. Forget that there are two locked doors plus the locked bedroom door, and a stove, chemicals and cleaning supplies, and hundreds of other bad things that are contained in that distance between the mother and child, and no baby monitor. If she cries, no one can hear her. If she gets sick in the middle of the night, no one can hear her, etc. etc.
I'm so worked up over this I could just cry. What happens when this kid is 4 or 5 or older and mommy goes out in the middle of the night and the kid is actually able to wake up and go looking for her? I mean, seriously. Single parent or not, young parent or not....there is a serious lack of maturity and responsibility on her part, and it makes me fucking sick!
That's my rant. Now, I'm going to go try to go to bed.
My best friend lives in a duplex. Her roommate is dating the girl that lives in the other half of the house. She's 19 and has an almost 2 year old.
She comes over to his side of the duplex to sleep with him, shower with him, cook with him...and LEAVES THE BABY NEXT DOOR.
She goes out at night to see him at work (and to sleep with her other boyfriend) AND LEAVES THE BABY AT HOME ALONE.
Sure, she's 19. She wants to go out and have a good time. But, for fuck's sake, she has a child. I'm not saying that I think fun ends when you have a kid, but responsibility and maturity should begin. What the fuck happened to finding a baby-sitter? Bringing the kid with you? Buying a god-damn baby monitor? How about none of the above, for this girl. She actually came over a week ago and told my friend, "I'm going out, the baby is asleep. If you hear her wake up before I get home, don't worry about it. She hasn't learned how to climb out of her crib yet." What the hell? What if that night was the night she learned how to climb out? What if that night she got deathly ill? What if the house caught on fire? There are about a million things that could happen to that baby, alone in that house, but none of them matter because girlie girl wants to go get laid. ARRRGH!
People who have kids and are completely irresponsible with them make me so mad. People that would rather hold their kids in their laps while they drive down the road instead of listening to them whine or cry in their carseat...people like chickie above, who regularly and routinely leave their kids at home alone when they are far too young to be alone...It makes me sick, really. I know, some people get pregnant when they don't want to be, but is it honestly the child's fault? No, and there are ways to be not pregnant or to not have the child once it's born, too, if you think you're not going to be able to take care of it.
Being a cop, once JP heard about it, he was legally bound to take corrective action. He tried finding the number for the girl's parents (because, incidentally, we were acquainted with the girl before she moved next door to my best friend) and by the time he did that, she had gotten home. So, he talked to the people at the Dept. of Child Services who told him that they couldn't do anything about her leaving the baby in her side of the duplex while spending the night in the other side, because people in ritzy neighborhoods in big houses might have bedrooms further away from their children than the distance between her and her baby. Forget that there are two locked doors plus the locked bedroom door, and a stove, chemicals and cleaning supplies, and hundreds of other bad things that are contained in that distance between the mother and child, and no baby monitor. If she cries, no one can hear her. If she gets sick in the middle of the night, no one can hear her, etc. etc.
I'm so worked up over this I could just cry. What happens when this kid is 4 or 5 or older and mommy goes out in the middle of the night and the kid is actually able to wake up and go looking for her? I mean, seriously. Single parent or not, young parent or not....there is a serious lack of maturity and responsibility on her part, and it makes me fucking sick!
That's my rant. Now, I'm going to go try to go to bed.
People are fucked up. I seriously don't understand how someone could do that to their child, and not care in the least little bit. Doesn't the guy she's sleeping with care that she's abandoning a child to be with him? Has anyone said anything to this girl?
What a shitty situation