I've really been working on my confidence lately, both in my online persona and in real life
On SG, I've been participating in groups more often than I used to, and talking with more people than I used to. Even though these people are far away, its been a big help. I've never been a very social person, due to my social anxiety, but I'm starting to overcome obstacles. I've also been taking big leaps in some of the groups, anyone who has seen knows what I'm talking about. It's been exciting and has gone a long way in helping my confidence and self esteem.
In my real life, I've been socializing and opening up more about my personal life with people at work, and attempting to discuss the personal lives of others to degrees that I've always avoided. For the first time in a long time, I'm feeling like people are actually interested in what I have to say, rather than just put up with it because I'm there.
As for the girl I'm sorta seeing... Well, I dunno. It's an odd situation. We've still only gone out once. We were supposed to go out on Saturday night. I went to the restaurant, which I chose a table on an outside courtyard in the middle of a gorgeous old mission. I brought flowers, we had candles, everything. I sat there for a long while, alone. People were looking at me, and feeling sorry for me. Eventually I got up and walked out, with everyone watching me. I found out later that she wasn't able to show because she was working a 30 hour shift in the ER, and there's no cell reception down there. I understand, no worries. We discussed it and we're talking again almost as well as we were in the beginning. Her work takes priority and I absolutely understand. However, last night, she left work early to go to a baseball game. So she has that option from time to time... But we've only gone out once. Not sure what to make of it.
Either way, all of these things are really helping me become a more social, confident person
On SG, I've been participating in groups more often than I used to, and talking with more people than I used to. Even though these people are far away, its been a big help. I've never been a very social person, due to my social anxiety, but I'm starting to overcome obstacles. I've also been taking big leaps in some of the groups, anyone who has seen knows what I'm talking about. It's been exciting and has gone a long way in helping my confidence and self esteem.
In my real life, I've been socializing and opening up more about my personal life with people at work, and attempting to discuss the personal lives of others to degrees that I've always avoided. For the first time in a long time, I'm feeling like people are actually interested in what I have to say, rather than just put up with it because I'm there.
As for the girl I'm sorta seeing... Well, I dunno. It's an odd situation. We've still only gone out once. We were supposed to go out on Saturday night. I went to the restaurant, which I chose a table on an outside courtyard in the middle of a gorgeous old mission. I brought flowers, we had candles, everything. I sat there for a long while, alone. People were looking at me, and feeling sorry for me. Eventually I got up and walked out, with everyone watching me. I found out later that she wasn't able to show because she was working a 30 hour shift in the ER, and there's no cell reception down there. I understand, no worries. We discussed it and we're talking again almost as well as we were in the beginning. Her work takes priority and I absolutely understand. However, last night, she left work early to go to a baseball game. So she has that option from time to time... But we've only gone out once. Not sure what to make of it.
Either way, all of these things are really helping me become a more social, confident person
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I think it's important to treat teens like grownups until they prove they can't behave like grownups. They will typically surprise you. I was pretty surprising.