Oh my... I just read your last entry. My gut reaction: run. I was in a similar situation: married for 14 years, together for 19. You asked about my stuff... yes, I'm getting rid of 20 years of collecting madness on the eve of a divorce - come June, I'll be separated for 2 years. If your level of distrust is that high with him, I think (in my limited knowledge of your actual situation) you need to trust yourself and your instincts. I'm just sayin'... My situation, however complicated, did not involve children. Kids complicate everything.
Chin up!
[Edited on Feb 26, 2006 8:52PM]