While I cannot imagine my good luck at the incredible woman whom decided to spend the rest of her life with me, and I look forward to every day of it, marriage is not something I would do again nor recommend to anyone. Simply put marriage is more challenge than benefit AND for every couple I know it is the end of sex. Some might say that it is the challenges in our lives that improve us as people, but these are not those sorts of challenges. These are the petty little challenges that are easily surmounted, requiring no or very little personal bending to deal with. The big challenges, the ones that actually do improve us, can readily be had every day, single or not.
One common argument against this mad mindset I often hear is that kids deserve two parents. To this I say:
I have known the children of single parents, the children of a consistent pair of parents, and children of revolving sets of parents. I have also known single parents, happy couple parents, and unhappy couple parents. I cannot really make any valid generalizations about this, other than that being a single parent is not easy, but being a parent is also not easy, and the kids that turn out best have one thing in common which is that they are loved and supported by a parent.
For whatever it is worth, marriage is a silly concept created a long time ago when perhaps there was some logic in it.

While I cannot imagine my good luck at the incredible woman whom decided to spend the rest of her life with me, and I look forward to every day of it, marriage is not something I would do again nor recommend to anyone. Simply put marriage is more challenge than benefit AND for every couple I know it is the end of sex. Some might say that it is the challenges in our lives that improve us as people, but these are not those sorts of challenges. These are the petty little challenges that are easily surmounted, requiring no or very little personal bending to deal with. The big challenges, the ones that actually do improve us, can readily be had every day, single or not.
One common argument against this mad mindset I often hear is that kids deserve two parents. To this I say:
I have known the children of single parents, the children of a consistent pair of parents, and children of revolving sets of parents. I have also known single parents, happy couple parents, and unhappy couple parents. I cannot really make any valid generalizations about this, other than that being a single parent is not easy, but being a parent is also not easy, and the kids that turn out best have one thing in common which is that they are loved and supported by a parent.
For whatever it is worth, marriage is a silly concept created a long time ago when perhaps there was some logic in it.