sooooooooo i'm a tad confused and getting frustrated.
Been with my bf since the end of march. He's on my uni course and I know him well. I've always had a bit of a reputation on my course for being flirty and a bit crazy etctetc I always wear quite random stuff, bright colours, short skirts and I'm generally really outgoing and most of my friends are guys. My bf knew this when we started going out, and we'd been friends for a while before going out.
However lately he's been getting super paranoid and jealous and clingy. gets upset if I don't hold his hand along the road, gets clingy when he's drunk. He's convinced I'm going to leave him for "someone better" and refuses to see that the paranoia is the thing causing the wedge. And I don't really know what to say. He gets annoyed with my modeling, gets especially paranoid about the fact that I am on fetlife, and have had some very actively fetish lifestyle bfs and a master and sir in the past. He feels that I'll leave him because our relationship isn't directed quite the same. It does get to me a bit, and it does feel like I've lost a very important part of my life, but I wouldn't leave somebody over that alone and it worries me that he doesn't seem to believe me about it.
Sigh. Things were so much simpler last summer!
Any advice?!
Lovelove xxx
Been with my bf since the end of march. He's on my uni course and I know him well. I've always had a bit of a reputation on my course for being flirty and a bit crazy etctetc I always wear quite random stuff, bright colours, short skirts and I'm generally really outgoing and most of my friends are guys. My bf knew this when we started going out, and we'd been friends for a while before going out.
However lately he's been getting super paranoid and jealous and clingy. gets upset if I don't hold his hand along the road, gets clingy when he's drunk. He's convinced I'm going to leave him for "someone better" and refuses to see that the paranoia is the thing causing the wedge. And I don't really know what to say. He gets annoyed with my modeling, gets especially paranoid about the fact that I am on fetlife, and have had some very actively fetish lifestyle bfs and a master and sir in the past. He feels that I'll leave him because our relationship isn't directed quite the same. It does get to me a bit, and it does feel like I've lost a very important part of my life, but I wouldn't leave somebody over that alone and it worries me that he doesn't seem to believe me about it.
Sigh. Things were so much simpler last summer!
Any advice?!
Lovelove xxx
if your relationship with him isn't d/s directed, then its normal for him to be uncomfortable since he knows you are a sub - because that is a need that needs to be fulfilled. if he knows you have that need but knows he is not fulfilling it, of course he'll be paranoid because he'll suspect you will find fulfillment from a Sir elsewhere.
this was a big problem with an ex i dated and lived with for 2 years - he couldnt dom me so i repeatedly cheated on him, though i loved him very much and still do. from now on i will only date doms.
follow your heart, but sometimes your heart doesnt know whats best for you.