So I have been with my girlfriend for about 6 months and my sex drive has tanked. I am 28 years old. She is 23. Her's is in turbo mode. There are nights I lay in bed and tear up when I just don't have the desire to have sex with her. I love her with all my heart. With that being said, before we got together, I was rubbing one out once a day and sometimes twice. When we first started dating my drive was through the roof and we were having sex 2-3 times a day. I was still masturbating too. At some point one of our conversations turned to masturbating and I could tell she was offended with the fact that I was still masturbating so I decided to stop and rely strictly on sex to get me off. Since then we have been having sex maybe once every 6 or 7 days. As a man, this is heartbreaking and as someone that worships my girlfriend, all I want to do is give her pleasure and make her happy. I know I don't have to give her sex to make her happy but if that's what she wants, I want to give it to her.

I have tried everything. I lowered my medications. I have been taking Man Up which has worked great in terms of keeping me hard (haha sometimes I feel like the old man in Road Trip that knocks things off the table with his erection) but I have a problem getting there. I have had my testosterone levels checked and they came back within normal range.

Lately, I have been resorting to trying to masturbate when she isn't here. I feel like I am cheating on her though which kills me. So, I ask, is it possible that more masturbation will lead to a better sex life? And if so, how would you approach this?

I do want to add something though. I feel like I portrayed her to be a sexless prude or sheltered person. She would masturbate once or twice a week before me. She is open to new things sexually and I think if I explained to her the importance of masturbation for my personal sex life, she might understand better.

Thanks for reading guys. It is a sensitive subject...

So I have been with my girlfriend for about 6 months and my sex drive has tanked. I am 28 years old. She is 23. Her's is in turbo mode. There are nights I lay in bed and tear up when I just don't have the desire to have sex with her. I love her with all my heart. With that being said, before we got together, I was rubbing one out once a day and sometimes twice. When we first started dating my drive was through the roof and we were having sex 2-3 times a day. I was still masturbating too. At some point one of our conversations turned to masturbating and I could tell she was offended with the fact that I was still masturbating so I decided to stop and rely strictly on sex to get me off. Since then we have been having sex maybe once every 6 or 7 days. As a man, this is heartbreaking and as someone that worships my girlfriend, all I want to do is give her pleasure and make her happy. I know I don't have to give her sex to make her happy but if that's what she wants, I want to give it to her.

I have tried everything. I lowered my medications. I have been taking Man Up which has worked great in terms of keeping me hard (haha sometimes I feel like the old man in Road Trip that knocks things off the table with his erection) but I have a problem getting there. I have had my testosterone levels checked and they came back within normal range.

Lately, I have been resorting to trying to masturbate when she isn't here. I feel like I am cheating on her though which kills me. So, I ask, is it possible that more masturbation will lead to a better sex life? And if so, how would you approach this?

I do want to add something though. I feel like I portrayed her to be a sexless prude or sheltered person. She would masturbate once or twice a week before me. She is open to new things sexually and I think if I explained to her the importance of masturbation for my personal sex life, she might understand better.

Thanks for reading guys. It is a sensitive subject that I haven't discussed with anyone and I am lost. I am going to post this in a couple groups in order to get as much feedback as I can.