My uncle died on saturday.

He was only 36 years old. He was diagnosed with congestive heart disease 3 years ago. They said his heart was only beating at ten percent of what would be considered normal. They suggested he get on a waiting list for a heart transplant.

Over the next year he lost over 100 pounds on weight watchers, and took my mom on an amazing vacation to new york city. He was forced into early retirement and moved back in with my grandparents. The doctors told him that due his dramatic weight loss, and the fact the he doesnt drink heavily, he would be an excellent candidate for a transplant.

He had been feeling really weak and tired over the past couple of weeks, and my mom and grandparents urged him to get back to the doctor. but before that could happen, he had a massive coronary episode which left him dead before the ambulance arrived.

He was a truly good person. Which sounds cliche, but in this case, it's the truth. He was taken advantage of on numerous occasions due to his kind(yet sadly, weak) heart and generosity. He would have given anyone the shirt off his back if they needed it. He was like a big brother to me. He took care of us when my mom ditched out. And he was my babysitter throughout elementary school. He coached me in t-ball, and let me play his nintendo. We would dog-pile him any chance we got. His laugh was infectious, and his goofy grin would have your mirroring it, no matter how foul a mood you'd been in.

I just wish I'd have gone to the dodger games he invited me to. I'm going to miss him a lot. And visiting my grandparents just won't be the same without him.


On the same note, but a slightly different angle, I want to physically harm my boss. I've already had to deal with HR over her. On 2 ocassions. A little backstory:

In February, she took over the district. She is a new DM, never been in charge of this many stores before. So I understand that there is a period of adjustment, and a learning curve involved.

My uncle died on saturday.

He was only 36 years old. He was diagnosed with congestive heart disease 3 years ago. They said his heart was only beating at ten percent of what would be considered normal. They suggested he get on a waiting list for a heart transplant.

Over the next year he lost over 100 pounds on weight watchers, and took my mom on an amazing vacation to new york city. He was forced into early retirement and moved back in with my grandparents. The doctors told him that due his dramatic weight loss, and the fact the he doesnt drink heavily, he would be an excellent candidate for a transplant.

He had been feeling really weak and tired over the past couple of weeks, and my mom and grandparents urged him to get back to the doctor. but before that could happen, he had a massive coronary episode which left him dead before the ambulance arrived.

He was a truly good person. Which sounds cliche, but in this case, it's the truth. He was taken advantage of on numerous occasions due to his kind(yet sadly, weak) heart and generosity. He would have given anyone the shirt off his back if they needed it. He was like a big brother to me. He took care of us when my mom ditched out. And he was my babysitter throughout elementary school. He coached me in t-ball, and let me play his nintendo. We would dog-pile him any chance we got. His laugh was infectious, and his goofy grin would have your mirroring it, no matter how foul a mood you'd been in.

I just wish I'd have gone to the dodger games he invited me to. I'm going to miss him a lot. And visiting my grandparents just won't be the same without him.


On the same note, but a slightly different angle, I want to physically harm my boss. I've already had to deal with HR over her. On 2 ocassions. A little backstory:

In February, she took over the district. She is a new DM, never been in charge of this many stores before. So I understand that there is a period of adjustment, and a learning curve involved. But I do expect SOME level of competence. I have been cussed out by her, and had my intelligence demeaned by her(its actually kind of funny when someone who isn't as smart as you, acts like you're the stupid one). I've talked to HR about the issues and she has changed her approach with me quite a bit. Which i am happy about. But she still lashes out irrationally. at other managers, including my husband.

I emailed her yesterday to inform her of my uncle's death and the fact that my grandma(my uncle's mom) was hospitalized on Sunday night, and that I needed to go see her, and be with my family. I also informed her that my closing manager wasnt going to be in until 330 and that I wouldnt be able to make it to the meeting(we have a meeting every week in another city, which is completely unnecessary when every other district has conference calls). I didnt get a response from her, so i asked my husband to call her to make sure she got the message(I couldnt hold my composure, and was only at work for lack of coverage). When he spoke with her, she was angry because this was the second meeting we would be missing. And she didnt understand why HE couldnt attend. He explained to her that we only have one car, and that i dont have my license yet. She repeated herself by saying "But, I just dont understand why you cant be here. And what's going on with her coverage?" He explained again, that he has to drive me, and that if we were able to change the circumstances and were able to attend her meeting, we would. She then said, well, there's nothing I can do. Legally you get three days for bereavement, so do what you have to do.

Part of me knew that her response would be something like this. Which is why I asked him to do it. I knew that the moment she tried to guilt trip us about the meeting, I would lose it. We dont even get reimbursed for gas to go to the fucking things. If we were just dating, I could see the problem. But he's my HUSBAND, he's part of my family, and this affects him to. I dont expect her condolences, but i do expect her to be a decent human being and not make matters worse.

She's stupid, incompetent and needs someone to hold her hand through everything she does. she also has no idea how to handle people and situations in a professional manner. It's been a recurring issue, and this is the last straw. I am going to request a transfer once things settle a little, and i can stop bawling my eyes out.

ugh.