age: 36 (Jun 19, 1972)

MEMBER SINCE: February 2004

occupation: I'm an attorney.

fantasy: a look

sign: "Ya Gotta Believe"

body mods: Mets Tattoo , Muhammad Ali tattoo, titanium cage in my spine, scars on my head

gets me hot: She does. Just by being herself

most humbling moment: I feel humbled every day. It's liberating to become so small.

into: baseball, music that moves me, feeling hard, thinking hard, running to rather than from -- that's right -- unlearning, and also learning -- not sure which matters more.

makes me sad: seeing anyone I love have to go through something difficult, knowing I'd do it for them if I could, and realizing I can only smooth an edge here and there at best. Learning the limits of one's help is a shock. Realizing small things can mean more than you think they do is important, though.

heroes: Jackie Robinson, Ali. Pedro, Dean Smith, Otis Redding's widow, Otis Redding, Sam Cooke, Bob Dylan, Crockett and Tubbs, Mom

makes me happy: knowing where I belong, knowing any fear is temporary, just knowing. Being enough

i lost my virginity: and yet feel as though I have it to give again