still soliciting advice... skip the spoiler if you don't wanna know personal info or don't care.
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my wife broke her neck in a car accident 3 years ago. she's a complete quad. (complete in medical terms means that she's got absolutely no movement or feeling below the injury line, quad means that her injury line is about the top of the breast) about 20 months ago, we tried having sex. while i still dearly love my wife and am still completely attracted to her, i find that necrophilia isn't my thing. we've not had any action since then. she's getting all paranoid that i'm cheating on her since we haven't done anything sexual since. there's a 0% chance that i'd ever cheat on her (yes, i'm completely celebate at the moment, and have been for 3 years with that 1 disasterous exception). (side note: what is it with a woman's psychology that causes them to hit on me in droves since the wife's accident? it's not me seeing things that aren't there, i've had a number of verbal offers. (One from a woman who turned me down for a date when I was single...))
how to handle the fragile psyche of the wife, keep her satisfied that i still love her (even though we're not having sex), etc?
man, what a pain in the ... gut. gall stones suck. well, gall bladders aren't *that* necessary...