torihoney

i'm not sure how i should feel about what it means to be a good friend to someone. when posed with the situation of either supporting a friend in what could be a colossal mistake and a huge risk to her work-wise, or advising here that logically her plan seems kind of flawed. One friend, one decision, two other people with completely opposite points of view on how the situation is to be handled.

so what makes the better friend, support or tough love? Isn't the idea of youth to give oneself enough time to fuck up repeatedly, learn some life lessons, and get the hell back out there? or is it taking the sage advice of someone older than you that seems to have the perspective you lack? i never learned much from people trying to stop me from making mistakes they had made and learned from...but looking back- why is it always that you wish you had listened a little better then, because of the aftermath of listening too impatiently?


but don't you always feel unsupported by the person that seems like they are looking for cracks in your plan? when do you get over (usually erroneously) thinking that your friend doesn't believe that you have the stuff to make what you want to happen come true, no matter what you are faced with? do people get over that?