Saturday.
Not everyone believes in monogamy. but everyone lives as though they do.
Everyone is aware of lying or wanting to tell the truth when loyalty or fidelity are at stake. I think everyone thinks of themselves a betraying or betrayed. I think everyone feels jealous or guilty, and suffers the anguish of their preferences.
And the happy few who apparently never experience sexual jealousy...
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Not everyone believes in monogamy. but everyone lives as though they do.
Everyone is aware of lying or wanting to tell the truth when loyalty or fidelity are at stake. I think everyone thinks of themselves a betraying or betrayed. I think everyone feels jealous or guilty, and suffers the anguish of their preferences.
And the happy few who apparently never experience sexual jealousy...
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Trials and errors of budding love attraction. New rush, new crash, new hopes and old worries. Perhaps an infatuation, followed by my euphoria, only to settled in (?) for slow and pleasant if already boring social habit. But is it fair? To her? To me? Obviously I'm meandering here...
Perhaps I need to be, or prefer to be surrounded by my solitude. Focusing on my...
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Perhaps I need to be, or prefer to be surrounded by my solitude. Focusing on my...
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I can't believe it:
* If you grow up in Hawaii, raised by your grandparents,
you're "exotic, different."
* Grow up in Alaska eating mooseburgers, a quintessential
American story.
* If your name is Barack you're a radical, unpatriotic Muslim.
* Name your kids Willow, Trig and Track, you're a maverick.
* Graduate from Harvard law School and you are unstable.
* Attend 5 different...
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* If you grow up in Hawaii, raised by your grandparents,
you're "exotic, different."
* Grow up in Alaska eating mooseburgers, a quintessential
American story.
* If your name is Barack you're a radical, unpatriotic Muslim.
* Name your kids Willow, Trig and Track, you're a maverick.
* Graduate from Harvard law School and you are unstable.
* Attend 5 different...
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quella:
Thank you. 
quella:
Hmmm. I can't even open our messages at all?! SG bugs much?
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gaea:
Lol ... interesting 
carmelita:
ahhh! crazy pic! 
thanks a bunch for the request!
much much love!!!!!!
xoxoxox
thanks a bunch for the request!
much much love!!!!!!
xoxoxox
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sweetzen:
you leave me speechless
stormdrac:
thank you for making me a friend. I love your study photos. black and white brings so much to the pics...well done.
sherrillee:
Very sexy pic - reminiscent of the 30's. Love the B & W treatment.
sweetzen:
thats a fun pic, very sensual
Question of disillusionment -- in the depth of the night.
The things about people that we fall in love with are often the things that end up driving us mad. Either we cannot bear the intensity of our love, or we didn't really love these things in the first place -- they were merely what required some psychic alchemy to make something else possible. It...
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The things about people that we fall in love with are often the things that end up driving us mad. Either we cannot bear the intensity of our love, or we didn't really love these things in the first place -- they were merely what required some psychic alchemy to make something else possible. It...
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sherrillee:
Or is it that we are blind to the faults, in the first blush of the relationship, when lust is a factor. As the fire of passion reduces to embers, without the intensity of the glare, we see the faults. Over time, as we obsess, the faults assume more and more importance as we seek reaons for making our "escape'.
I choose to believe that at different stages in our lives, we have different needs. Some couples learn to adapt and the relationship survives. Other's don't and the relationship fails. Relationships take work, introspection and analysis and "fine tuning". When you are in tune with your partner, it's like a dance. Sometimes one leads, other times the other does. The trick is to stay "in sync". Whenever I see a long term couple - I have to applaud that they found a way to make it work.
I personally can't stand it when I argue with my husband. I don't want to be that "angry' person. I don't want to be "angry' with him. And, I keep latching onto sensitive men that don't like conflict. So it's in both of our best interests to settle the conflict, ASAP.
I'm a romantic - I believe that lifelong romance is possible. But - keeping romance takes work. It's not taking each other for granted. It's not letting yourself go. It's not getting sloppy by forgetting to say "I love you". it's finding little ways to surprise each other and keep each other interested.
I choose to believe that at different stages in our lives, we have different needs. Some couples learn to adapt and the relationship survives. Other's don't and the relationship fails. Relationships take work, introspection and analysis and "fine tuning". When you are in tune with your partner, it's like a dance. Sometimes one leads, other times the other does. The trick is to stay "in sync". Whenever I see a long term couple - I have to applaud that they found a way to make it work.
I personally can't stand it when I argue with my husband. I don't want to be that "angry' person. I don't want to be "angry' with him. And, I keep latching onto sensitive men that don't like conflict. So it's in both of our best interests to settle the conflict, ASAP.
I'm a romantic - I believe that lifelong romance is possible. But - keeping romance takes work. It's not taking each other for granted. It's not letting yourself go. It's not getting sloppy by forgetting to say "I love you". it's finding little ways to surprise each other and keep each other interested.
stefanny:
Very thoughtful Sherrillee. I do hope that "keeping romance takes work" mantra works for you. And as much I yearn to agree with you my present outlook (getting older?) is JUST opposite:
In my erotic life work doesn't work. This is its relief and its terror. I think it is no more possible to work at a relationship than it is to arrange to have a dream, or to will an erection. As a matter of fact (to me) when you're working at it you know it has gone wrong, that something is already missing. Perhaps in our erotic lives, in other words, trying is always trying too hard; perhaps we have to become lazy again about effort, because the good things only come when it stops -- affection, curiosity, desire, un-worrying attention.
Perhaps sexual relationships are only for the work-shy, because they do not work. They just give us more or less pleasure, more or less hope.
In my erotic life work doesn't work. This is its relief and its terror. I think it is no more possible to work at a relationship than it is to arrange to have a dream, or to will an erection. As a matter of fact (to me) when you're working at it you know it has gone wrong, that something is already missing. Perhaps in our erotic lives, in other words, trying is always trying too hard; perhaps we have to become lazy again about effort, because the good things only come when it stops -- affection, curiosity, desire, un-worrying attention.
Perhaps sexual relationships are only for the work-shy, because they do not work. They just give us more or less pleasure, more or less hope.
Starry night in big city. I wish I had my camera with me.
Sad night too:
Another unnecessary conversation/fight with my (for how long?) girlfriend. I wish we know when to stop bickering in life. When things go too far, to the point of no return....
I think experience is the worst teacher. It always gives the test first and the instruction later....
Sad night too:
Another unnecessary conversation/fight with my (for how long?) girlfriend. I wish we know when to stop bickering in life. When things go too far, to the point of no return....
I think experience is the worst teacher. It always gives the test first and the instruction later....
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mrsfulks:
It is a very sad thing when we cant work thing out with the people we love.
Let me just say: I love older women. They have brains, boundless libido, beauty; their (real) breasts are soft and vulnerable. You can talk with women your age because they have the precious and rare gift of listening and thinking.
They are (mostly) way more thoughtful, inquisitive, intelligent, free from self-pity, self-reflective and gracious that almost any man I know.
Their time-marked bodies are fantastic...
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They are (mostly) way more thoughtful, inquisitive, intelligent, free from self-pity, self-reflective and gracious that almost any man I know.
Their time-marked bodies are fantastic...
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stefanny:
For me 40 yrs "old" woman is perfect. Never though would I look at your driver's license -- only at you...
sherrillee:
So there's hope for us that are getting older? I look at the bodies at this sight and lament when mine was as firm as they are.
Of course it doesn't help that I've lost a great deal of weight. It seems that for all the hype, your skin does not recover as well when your in your 30's. I waited too long to lose it.
Now i just try to focus on the better parts and artfully "arrange" the others.....
Gravity is not kind.....
Of course it doesn't help that I've lost a great deal of weight. It seems that for all the hype, your skin does not recover as well when your in your 30's. I waited too long to lose it.
Now i just try to focus on the better parts and artfully "arrange" the others.....
Gravity is not kind.....