I've always though of myself as a pretty decent guy who always tries to do the right thing without being selfish or inconsiderate towards others. Today I was so humbled to have had that verified to my by my peers and I shall tell you why they believe so. I've been seeing a girl for a few weeks now who I really like and who really likes me. We have very similar interests but enough differences so that we can talk and talk and talk and never seem bored by each other. Anyhoo, one evening she came over and we were talking and she said she wanted to tell me something, she explained that she had never really been in a serious relationship before and that she'd never been with a man. She was very embarrassed by this, saying that at her age she feels a bit pathetic. I was a little shocked because she's very attractive and I just found it a little hard to believe, but I of course told her that it wasn't a problem for me at all and that if she does decide she would like to take that step with me I'm prepared to give her the time she needs until she feels ready.
Although I think I dealt with the situation well, inside I was a little confused - for no other reason that I am very attracted to this girl on a physical level and I would very much like to be intimate with her, though I have no intentions of pushing that in any way, shape or form. What this whole thing has made me realise though is that as much as I feel sex is an important part of a relationship, it's no the be all and end all that some people make it out to be. The time I've spent with this girl since she told me this has been fantastic - unlike other relationships which have often been very physical very quickly, I'm really taking the time to get to know this girl on a deeply spiritual and emotional level and it feels sensational. I feel like I've bonded with her so much and if and when our relationship does become physical, it will mean so much more to me. I shared this information with a couple of close friends (male and female) and aside from a few jokes from the boys, all of them said that they felt I was just an awesome person, because very few guys my age would bother with it, most guys wouldn't even make the effort and to have my friends tell me that it makes me a special person was lovely - I just hope I live up to their (and my own) expectations. I may not be made of steel, but I'll always be your superman.
Although I think I dealt with the situation well, inside I was a little confused - for no other reason that I am very attracted to this girl on a physical level and I would very much like to be intimate with her, though I have no intentions of pushing that in any way, shape or form. What this whole thing has made me realise though is that as much as I feel sex is an important part of a relationship, it's no the be all and end all that some people make it out to be. The time I've spent with this girl since she told me this has been fantastic - unlike other relationships which have often been very physical very quickly, I'm really taking the time to get to know this girl on a deeply spiritual and emotional level and it feels sensational. I feel like I've bonded with her so much and if and when our relationship does become physical, it will mean so much more to me. I shared this information with a couple of close friends (male and female) and aside from a few jokes from the boys, all of them said that they felt I was just an awesome person, because very few guys my age would bother with it, most guys wouldn't even make the effort and to have my friends tell me that it makes me a special person was lovely - I just hope I live up to their (and my own) expectations. I may not be made of steel, but I'll always be your superman.