I've decided that the easist thing for me to do is to just describe my clients, our visits, and their unique situations. Hopefully that will provide insight into 'why women would do this'....
To that end, I have a client I saw last night. She is a late-middle aged woman, about 40. She is very beautiful, long thick dark hair, very fair skinned. She would probably tell you that she could lose 15 or 20 pounds, but she's crazy.
Her situation is probably not all that unique for women. She is married to a succesful real-estate guy, but he's gone alot. He travels on business, and works long hours when he's in town. He also had an affair about 10 years ago, and even though they reconciled it still put distance between them.
They don't have a bad relationship - he doesn't beat her, he doesn't do drugs or gamble the rent money, he remembers her birthday and their anniversary, he doesn't cheat on her (allegedly). But he's also not the most attentive person in the world. They have a limited sex life, and he's a 3-stroker. He doesn't know her body, or try to understand what excites her, and doesn't do foreplay much, either.
The ideal answer for them would be for him to wake up, see what a gorgeous, sexual woman he sleeps with every night, and make SOME effort. Alas...
[As an aside, the issue is not his body or appearance. I've seen pictures -- he's 6'3", slim and muscular. His dick is actually bigger than mine, so it's not that either (guys - do the math on that...)]
So, one of the women at her 'club', who is also a client of mine, recommended me to her. She called, and we agreed to meet for coffee one morning. She was very surprised at my appearance. I wore a black Zegna cotton suit with no tie, but my hair was down (think Robert Plant in The Song Remains The Same). Her friend told her about all of this, but she was still surprised for some reason. To say that I'm not 'her type' is an understatement. In any event, I smiled at her, complimented her discretely, made eye-fucking-contact, actually LISTENED to what she was saying, held my own side of a conversation on Gregorian Chant, didn't once look at her rather prominent boobs, muted my phone when it rang without looking at the caller ID, insisted on paying. 20 minutes and she wanted a 'date'. I didn't actively seduce her. I just payed the fuck attention.
Our first 'date', we went for drinks at the hotel bar where I was checked in. She was very curious about me and what I 'do'.
She wanted to know if anything was off-limits. I made her laugh and said she wasn't getting anything up my ass - but outside of that nothing was offlimits.
She asked if I 'kiss downstairs', and I said "I eat pussy like a woman". No one had ever done that for her.
She asked if I always use condoms and I said "absolutely and always, and I usually double bag my dong, and no that's not negotiable."
She had a few too many Chardonnay's, and was VERY eager to go upstairs. By the time we got up there, there was no dance or pretense or anything like that. She had her tongue down my throat in the elevator.
I asked her if there was anything in particular she was interested in, and she pointed to her crotch demurely. God she was cute.
I took all of my clothes off in front of her, and then took her clothes off. I touched and kissed her body, telling her how beautiful everything was. I was very gentle in going down on her. She was so wired up and sensitive that even the slightest touch was almost too much.
[Import tip guys - you can't always use your tongue. It's actually rough and a little hard to the touch (or can be). What you CAN do is use your lips. Poof them out so they're soft and pliable and slide the crack of your lips back and forth over the clit, for example. You can apply some pressure with this technique without providing too much stimulation. Also - LEARN TO SALIVATE. As in all things in the female nether regions, lubrication is important, and the clit doens't produce any.]
We didn't actually have sex. She had a few orgasms while I went down on her, and that was enough for her. She insisted on sucking me off (and she was EXTREMELY gifted at this), and that was our evening.
She does not particularly need the massages or the baths or the spa-stuff, or me cooking for her or anything like that.
So, what does she want from me? She wants someone to be attentive to her sexually in a way her husband is not. She could have an affair, but I'm safer and 100% reliable.
She could leave him, but everything else in their relationship works. They have lots in common, and built up some comfort in their life. She doesn't want to be lonely, or start over in another relationship that may be worse in the end.
I've encouraged her to talk to her husband, but he's really not that interested in talking about things. He's focused on his career and his material life, and he makes her get him off a couple of times a month. One thing she's started to do is to respond verbally when he does something good, which seems to be encouraging him, but who knows.
Her husband does not know of our dates, and would be upset with her if he did know. A few times, he's called while we were in the middle of things, but never seems to suspect anything.
She doesn't call me all that often - maybe once every 6 weeks or so. Our 'dates' always include drinks, but rarely dinner or an evening out. We've never travelled together. The sex-part of the date lasts between 2 and 3 hours from beginning to end. And for this, she pays me $1000 + $500 tip.
To that end, I have a client I saw last night. She is a late-middle aged woman, about 40. She is very beautiful, long thick dark hair, very fair skinned. She would probably tell you that she could lose 15 or 20 pounds, but she's crazy.
Her situation is probably not all that unique for women. She is married to a succesful real-estate guy, but he's gone alot. He travels on business, and works long hours when he's in town. He also had an affair about 10 years ago, and even though they reconciled it still put distance between them.
They don't have a bad relationship - he doesn't beat her, he doesn't do drugs or gamble the rent money, he remembers her birthday and their anniversary, he doesn't cheat on her (allegedly). But he's also not the most attentive person in the world. They have a limited sex life, and he's a 3-stroker. He doesn't know her body, or try to understand what excites her, and doesn't do foreplay much, either.
The ideal answer for them would be for him to wake up, see what a gorgeous, sexual woman he sleeps with every night, and make SOME effort. Alas...
[As an aside, the issue is not his body or appearance. I've seen pictures -- he's 6'3", slim and muscular. His dick is actually bigger than mine, so it's not that either (guys - do the math on that...)]
So, one of the women at her 'club', who is also a client of mine, recommended me to her. She called, and we agreed to meet for coffee one morning. She was very surprised at my appearance. I wore a black Zegna cotton suit with no tie, but my hair was down (think Robert Plant in The Song Remains The Same). Her friend told her about all of this, but she was still surprised for some reason. To say that I'm not 'her type' is an understatement. In any event, I smiled at her, complimented her discretely, made eye-fucking-contact, actually LISTENED to what she was saying, held my own side of a conversation on Gregorian Chant, didn't once look at her rather prominent boobs, muted my phone when it rang without looking at the caller ID, insisted on paying. 20 minutes and she wanted a 'date'. I didn't actively seduce her. I just payed the fuck attention.
Our first 'date', we went for drinks at the hotel bar where I was checked in. She was very curious about me and what I 'do'.
She wanted to know if anything was off-limits. I made her laugh and said she wasn't getting anything up my ass - but outside of that nothing was offlimits.
She asked if I 'kiss downstairs', and I said "I eat pussy like a woman". No one had ever done that for her.
She asked if I always use condoms and I said "absolutely and always, and I usually double bag my dong, and no that's not negotiable."
She had a few too many Chardonnay's, and was VERY eager to go upstairs. By the time we got up there, there was no dance or pretense or anything like that. She had her tongue down my throat in the elevator.
I asked her if there was anything in particular she was interested in, and she pointed to her crotch demurely. God she was cute.
I took all of my clothes off in front of her, and then took her clothes off. I touched and kissed her body, telling her how beautiful everything was. I was very gentle in going down on her. She was so wired up and sensitive that even the slightest touch was almost too much.
[Import tip guys - you can't always use your tongue. It's actually rough and a little hard to the touch (or can be). What you CAN do is use your lips. Poof them out so they're soft and pliable and slide the crack of your lips back and forth over the clit, for example. You can apply some pressure with this technique without providing too much stimulation. Also - LEARN TO SALIVATE. As in all things in the female nether regions, lubrication is important, and the clit doens't produce any.]
We didn't actually have sex. She had a few orgasms while I went down on her, and that was enough for her. She insisted on sucking me off (and she was EXTREMELY gifted at this), and that was our evening.
She does not particularly need the massages or the baths or the spa-stuff, or me cooking for her or anything like that.
So, what does she want from me? She wants someone to be attentive to her sexually in a way her husband is not. She could have an affair, but I'm safer and 100% reliable.
She could leave him, but everything else in their relationship works. They have lots in common, and built up some comfort in their life. She doesn't want to be lonely, or start over in another relationship that may be worse in the end.
I've encouraged her to talk to her husband, but he's really not that interested in talking about things. He's focused on his career and his material life, and he makes her get him off a couple of times a month. One thing she's started to do is to respond verbally when he does something good, which seems to be encouraging him, but who knows.
Her husband does not know of our dates, and would be upset with her if he did know. A few times, he's called while we were in the middle of things, but never seems to suspect anything.
She doesn't call me all that often - maybe once every 6 weeks or so. Our 'dates' always include drinks, but rarely dinner or an evening out. We've never travelled together. The sex-part of the date lasts between 2 and 3 hours from beginning to end. And for this, she pays me $1000 + $500 tip.
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happy holidays, btw.