ragefilledmuffin

Anyone have any idea of how to gracefully end a friendship. Its not an I hate you and never want to see you again thing. Its more of a I feel like we've grown in different directions and don't mesh so well anymore. I still think she is (or at least used to be and must still at heart be) a great person. I still think we'd have a chance at a reconciliation if her jackass boy would go away or at least give us the occasional girls only night. But I've accepted that she is entranced by him and I can't change that. I choose not to be involved anymore because it isn't fun for me anymore. My last journal provides a bit more backstory--its a bit longwinded.

I have been hanging out with people who don't frustrate the hell out of me. People who don't date assholes and defend them to the group at large. People who seem to share a lot of my outlook on life in general.

I'm sensing some hurt feelings on the part of the friend I am "defriending". I can understand that but its not as if we've been close for the past year and a half, and yeah, it is mostly due to her boy and I being like oil and water.

Am I doing the mature thing here? Or am throwing the baby out with the bathwater? All I know is I feel some conflicted feelings based on the happenings of this weekend (again, see previous entry). B-day girl apparently told some people that she felt as if we (as in my collective bar table group I assume) weren't into celebrating her b-day. And she was upset that we left without telling them where we were going. I expected it a bit. Although a part of me says its a payback for the stunt she and the boy pulled the weekend of the tubing trip (not following us to the next destination as planned, but driving the hour home instead, all the while not calling and ignoring their damn cell). See? Its all become petty and about paybacks and competition and whatnot. This is not friendship. This is why I am having trouble considering her a true friend. Which pains me to say because the girl has seen me through so much, knows all my dirty little secrets from the past, and is in fact, very much a part of why I am the confident person I am today. I feel like I need to thank her, but tell her goodbye.

Am I making any sense?
Has anyone had a similar experience and if so, what happened, what did you do?