.GAH!
Me: I can't wait until we get the house done and get moved in. I'm looking forward to being able to learn to finally use my airbrush.
Her: *quizzical look* You have an airbrush?
Me: Yeah. Dick (my late granddad) gave it to me in high school. I've carried it around for years and haven't had the time and space to actually start using it until now.
Her: Well, if you had it that long and haven't used it, then you need to give it to Goodwill. You don't need old shit that you don't use just laying around.
Me: First, I'm not giving it to Goodwill. It's a $400 double action professional setup. Second, what part of "I'm looking forward to learning to use" didn't you understand?
Her: I'm just saying you have too much stuff. You need to get rid of everything you won't use everyday. Besides, if we sell that, we could use the money to buy that jewelry armoir that I need.
Me: *blink* What?
Her: If we sell all your old stuff like that, your guns, your corvette, and everything else you've carried around for years but only use every couple of months, then we could use the money for useful things like upgrading the computers and new furniture.
Me: You want to trade in my classic 78 corvette for a fucking couch? No. I've put more time, sweat and love in that car than.... fuck it, no.
Her: But only only drive it a couple days a year during the summer.
Me: That's what you do with classic cars. You wait for a nice day off with beautiful weather, take the tops off, and go for a ride. Otherwise, you drive the daily beater.
Her: that's why we need to sell it and trade your truck in on a new challenger. We don't need three cars. The fun car can be the daily driver.
Me: we've had this talk before. I'm not selling the truck and we're sure as hell not buying a $40,000 sports car to be a daily driver.
Her: Well, we still don't need three cars. You can sell the corvette and all that other useless shit you have.
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Holy dog balls. I think she really is trying to destroy every bit of who I was before I met her. I used to think I was being paranoid, but fucking hell we've had three conversations like this over the last four days. She can't be reasoned with. If it doesn't directly benefit her, she wants to get rid of it.
FUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUCK
Me: I can't wait until we get the house done and get moved in. I'm looking forward to being able to learn to finally use my airbrush.
Her: *quizzical look* You have an airbrush?
Me: Yeah. Dick (my late granddad) gave it to me in high school. I've carried it around for years and haven't had the time and space to actually start using it until now.
Her: Well, if you had it that long and haven't used it, then you need to give it to Goodwill. You don't need old shit that you don't use just laying around.
Me: First, I'm not giving it to Goodwill. It's a $400 double action professional setup. Second, what part of "I'm looking forward to learning to use" didn't you understand?
Her: I'm just saying you have too much stuff. You need to get rid of everything you won't use everyday. Besides, if we sell that, we could use the money to buy that jewelry armoir that I need.
Me: *blink* What?
Her: If we sell all your old stuff like that, your guns, your corvette, and everything else you've carried around for years but only use every couple of months, then we could use the money for useful things like upgrading the computers and new furniture.
Me: You want to trade in my classic 78 corvette for a fucking couch? No. I've put more time, sweat and love in that car than.... fuck it, no.
Her: But only only drive it a couple days a year during the summer.
Me: That's what you do with classic cars. You wait for a nice day off with beautiful weather, take the tops off, and go for a ride. Otherwise, you drive the daily beater.
Her: that's why we need to sell it and trade your truck in on a new challenger. We don't need three cars. The fun car can be the daily driver.
Me: we've had this talk before. I'm not selling the truck and we're sure as hell not buying a $40,000 sports car to be a daily driver.
Her: Well, we still don't need three cars. You can sell the corvette and all that other useless shit you have.
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Holy dog balls. I think she really is trying to destroy every bit of who I was before I met her. I used to think I was being paranoid, but fucking hell we've had three conversations like this over the last four days. She can't be reasoned with. If it doesn't directly benefit her, she wants to get rid of it.
FUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUCK
Relationships are partnerships.
Of course the intial thought would be tell her to sell her shit, but that would just be childish.
Is there a reason why she is so focused on herself lately?
First thought... it's none of my business but since you're putting it out here obviously you're cool with it kind of being our business so... have you talked to her about how her actions are making you feel? We're seeing one side of it, of course. But you don't seem happy. If you aren't happy, you can either communicate with her and do something about it, or you can bitch about her and build up further resentment until you finally just hate yourself or hate her.
Either way it doesn't seem like a fun or healthy way to live.
No relationship is perfect, and we all have things about our significant others that we can't stand, but, and I am guilty of this as well, when we start going to other people with our relationship problems instead of talking to the person we're in a relationship with it's basically like saying we're giving up on that person. Sure, sure we can call it venting, we can call it letting off some steam... but you have to step back and go, "How would she feel if she read what I just wrote about her on the internet. Would she feel that I had portrayed her honestly? Would she feel surprised about how I actually feel about the comments she made? Would she feel nothing because everything I wrote is already on the table and we have an open dialogue in the works. Would she feel good that I am letting off some steam elsewhere and she didn't have to deal with it? Would she feel hurt that a website full of strangers know that I'm unhappy before she did?"
Women don't always see that there is a problem with a relationship until you say, "There is a problem with our relationship," to us. We might sense something is wrong, which can make us a. moody b. overly sensitive c. bitchy d. defensive e. crazy f. territorial g. jealous h. all of the above i. KJHKHDKQOKSPOKXAOK. If you catch my meaning, but we won't let ourselves think that our actual bond with our partner is being damaged by our own behaviour.
I could just be projecting and completely off base. Either way, I hope things get better and that she chills the fuck out. Classic cars are awesome and should be enjoyed as you stated. My husband has all kinds of weird little hobbies that cost money we could have spent elsewhere. I also have a banjo I haven't played in two years and a keyboard I touch once every few months and an SG account