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So I went out to meet this girl I've been talking to (first meeting, I guess you could call it a date but I try to avoid that word). We had made no real plans to meet that day, it's was fairly spur of the moment that she invited me...she sent me a pic the day before but to my surprise she was much better looking in person. She shares the same obscure musical tastes that I do which is really rare...not a lot of women really into doom metal

We we got along really well. It was very surprising. I've met 3 other women through craig's list and they've all gone pretty bad...but this was really nice. She had to work really early the next day so the night was a bit short but quite nice. She called me that night but I didn't get home yet...but she called me again the next day between jobs.

Now the bad news....nothing in my life happens without bad news ...... I think I may be losing a good friend of mine because of this. My ex has become a very good friend in the near 2-years since we've broken up (because she had a crush on the singer in my band and wanted to see other people). But I'm really sensing a lot of tension because I'm dating (for the first real time since we broke up). We even tried to get back together a few months back but that only lasted a week or so, so she's had plenty of opportunities to figure out what she wants (well that's how I see it at least)...but I'm just getting a lot of bad attitude and mean spirited sarcastic remarks from her when I talk about this girl I'm talking to. I really try to not even talk about it much to her but I figure that if I said nothing it would be awkwardly avoidant (is that a word? ).. Well....I tried to keep it short but that was still pretty long....any advice from the ladies out there? Is there any way I could possibly handle this better? My friend is going through some other issues in her life so this might just be a venting from that but I refuse to let myself feel guilty for possibly finding someone special.