Deep breath and repeat: It's all for the best. It's all for the best. It's all for the best. It's all for the best. It's all for the best. It's all for the best. It's all for the best.
Isn't it?
The reason why I do not have children is because I am not ready to be a mom. It's that simple; financially, mentally, emotionally and physically there are factors that make me know that I am not at that point yet. In a few years, yes. Definitely. Now? No. I want to be able to still go out and do what I want; out for a drink or over to a friends house to watch a movie, to be able to come and go as I please, to play whatever violent video game I want. To say fuck out loud. Now is this selfish of me? Shit yes. I know that but, I also don't think that in forcing myself to let go of what I am not ready to let go of it's not only unfair to me but it's unfair to the child.
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That being said, it's time to blog. In the beginning of August Nic received a phone call from Jen (his daughters' mother) saying that she had been kicked out of her house. To back up slightly; in June Jen moved to Virginia with Jaden (Nic's daughter) and Eamen (Jen's son of a different father, Dan). She had been promised by her mother a place to live, a car, a job, paid for college education, and free daycare for her kids while she was at work or school. Sweet deal, right? Nic approved the move because in the end he knew it would be best for Jaden. Anyways, so beginning of August Nic gets this phone call from Jen saying that her mother lied to her about everything, that she got down there and her parents reneged on the job, and told her it would be $900 a month. When Jen said she wouldn't pay, her mother booted her. She told Nic that she was living with a friend and hinted at wanting money from Nic. He told her no, but that if she needed him to he would drive to Virginia and claim Jaden, drive her back up here and enroll her in school. They argued for a few days, finally she conceded that she did need help and wanted to move back to Michigan, and would we come down and get her?
August 12th we spent 24 hours in the car driving to Roanoke and back.
It turned out in the end that there were factors that we were not aware of. While we knew that Jen and her mother never got along real well, we received a phone call on the way home from Jen's mom saying that Jen had duped her. She was never around, she was verbally abusive to her children, she paid no attention to them, etc. Jen's mom said that the only reason why she said she said she was going to charge her rent was so she would stick around. She kicked Jen out as a last resort; ending the conversation with the promise to help if Nic were so to file for full custody. The paper work is on the desk. Will it get filed? I don't know. Last we talked to Jen, she and Nic were talking about joint custody. Jen moved back up here with her new boyfriend of about two months, and they are living with Jen's ex-girlfriend Kathy who was quite possibly the worst influence ever on Jaden. Nic told Jen that Jaden was living with us until she finds a new place.
The problem in the end is we never knew who to believe, what relationship would get wrecked depending on what was true or what was false. We've had Jaden now for almost a month. For the most part she's been pretty well behaved. Jen moved back, and has spent time with her twice, but now we haven't heard from her in a week. Jaden has started school, K.PM, and is slowly starting to pick up some real nasty and bully like habits from her classmates that has made Nic want to talk to her teacher.
This has been so stressful. And there are huge bits that I know I've left out. For another blog I suppose. Right now I'm feeling worn out in every way, and it's time for me to read a bedtime story.
Isn't it?
The reason why I do not have children is because I am not ready to be a mom. It's that simple; financially, mentally, emotionally and physically there are factors that make me know that I am not at that point yet. In a few years, yes. Definitely. Now? No. I want to be able to still go out and do what I want; out for a drink or over to a friends house to watch a movie, to be able to come and go as I please, to play whatever violent video game I want. To say fuck out loud. Now is this selfish of me? Shit yes. I know that but, I also don't think that in forcing myself to let go of what I am not ready to let go of it's not only unfair to me but it's unfair to the child.
~~~***~~~~~
That being said, it's time to blog. In the beginning of August Nic received a phone call from Jen (his daughters' mother) saying that she had been kicked out of her house. To back up slightly; in June Jen moved to Virginia with Jaden (Nic's daughter) and Eamen (Jen's son of a different father, Dan). She had been promised by her mother a place to live, a car, a job, paid for college education, and free daycare for her kids while she was at work or school. Sweet deal, right? Nic approved the move because in the end he knew it would be best for Jaden. Anyways, so beginning of August Nic gets this phone call from Jen saying that her mother lied to her about everything, that she got down there and her parents reneged on the job, and told her it would be $900 a month. When Jen said she wouldn't pay, her mother booted her. She told Nic that she was living with a friend and hinted at wanting money from Nic. He told her no, but that if she needed him to he would drive to Virginia and claim Jaden, drive her back up here and enroll her in school. They argued for a few days, finally she conceded that she did need help and wanted to move back to Michigan, and would we come down and get her?
August 12th we spent 24 hours in the car driving to Roanoke and back.
It turned out in the end that there were factors that we were not aware of. While we knew that Jen and her mother never got along real well, we received a phone call on the way home from Jen's mom saying that Jen had duped her. She was never around, she was verbally abusive to her children, she paid no attention to them, etc. Jen's mom said that the only reason why she said she said she was going to charge her rent was so she would stick around. She kicked Jen out as a last resort; ending the conversation with the promise to help if Nic were so to file for full custody. The paper work is on the desk. Will it get filed? I don't know. Last we talked to Jen, she and Nic were talking about joint custody. Jen moved back up here with her new boyfriend of about two months, and they are living with Jen's ex-girlfriend Kathy who was quite possibly the worst influence ever on Jaden. Nic told Jen that Jaden was living with us until she finds a new place.
The problem in the end is we never knew who to believe, what relationship would get wrecked depending on what was true or what was false. We've had Jaden now for almost a month. For the most part she's been pretty well behaved. Jen moved back, and has spent time with her twice, but now we haven't heard from her in a week. Jaden has started school, K.PM, and is slowly starting to pick up some real nasty and bully like habits from her classmates that has made Nic want to talk to her teacher.
This has been so stressful. And there are huge bits that I know I've left out. For another blog I suppose. Right now I'm feeling worn out in every way, and it's time for me to read a bedtime story.
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