I was reading a thread where a boy says he is uncomfortable because a friend of him used to use "gay" in a pejorative way.
It remembers a story which happened one month ago.
I was debatting by emails with some feminists about sex work. On of them told me "you must be a sex worker with a pimp to talk like that".
It was a embarrassing situation. Being a sex worker is not a problem for me (I'm not but you see what I mean). But I know she want to insult me with this sentence. Then I have to say I was not and to justify myself ; and so I have to dissociate myself from the sex workers (it can mean for them I was ashamed to be considered as a prostitute).. It was very uncomfortable.
I have the same problems in the streets for example. If a man says me "you are a slut", I don't know what to say. "slut" is just an insult for him not for me
so I usually say "yes and so what ?".
today it is a sunny day. I wear a jeans, a Fred Perry tee shirt and shoes. Normal I will say. BUT.... I have no bra
In the street a man is looking at me since 5 minuts. When I'm near him, he says "wonderful".
Ok it is not rude. ok he can say "nice tits" or sentences I used to hear. But I don't a man who judge my body. It is really disturbing. I'm not a piece of meat. I'm really fed up with all that shit.
I don't know if a man can understand it is not flattering, even he is called Brad Pitt. I want to be alone
It remembers a story which happened one month ago.
I was debatting by emails with some feminists about sex work. On of them told me "you must be a sex worker with a pimp to talk like that".
It was a embarrassing situation. Being a sex worker is not a problem for me (I'm not but you see what I mean). But I know she want to insult me with this sentence. Then I have to say I was not and to justify myself ; and so I have to dissociate myself from the sex workers (it can mean for them I was ashamed to be considered as a prostitute).. It was very uncomfortable.
I have the same problems in the streets for example. If a man says me "you are a slut", I don't know what to say. "slut" is just an insult for him not for me
so I usually say "yes and so what ?".
today it is a sunny day. I wear a jeans, a Fred Perry tee shirt and shoes. Normal I will say. BUT.... I have no bra
In the street a man is looking at me since 5 minuts. When I'm near him, he says "wonderful".
Ok it is not rude. ok he can say "nice tits" or sentences I used to hear. But I don't a man who judge my body. It is really disturbing. I'm not a piece of meat. I'm really fed up with all that shit.
I don't know if a man can understand it is not flattering, even he is called Brad Pitt. I want to be alone
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And I'm sorry Inga wouldn't respond to you. I'm sure she appreciates your interest, and I don't think it would be hard for you to read in Enlgish. Maybe if you pester her to from the get-go, she can try to get her new book published in French
I will tell her about you if I get to speak with her in the Fall.
Hope you feel better, don't let random losers get you down.