kiljoy

So we've just started reading 'The Ethical Slut' by Dossie Easton and Janet Hardy after being recommended it by many people here and IRL. So far we're only a couple of chapters in but I already feel like it's making me feel more comfortable with myself and how I feel about others around me. I've found I've always sexualized my friends (some of them male) but that never made me a bad friend and many of them never knew or know now how I thought of them sometimes. I have a few friends who I can talk about sex very openly with, including my queer/omni/pansexual desires, but most of my friends I think are totally oblivious. I'd like to think that if I was to come out to everyone that all of my friends would accept me without falter but sadly I fear some of them would recoil and our friendships would be irreversibly changed. I'm not expecting my close friends to hear every sordid fantasy I've had about them and say 'Awwww, that's nice...' but it'd be nice to be able to not bite your tongue when you want to say something erotic that comes to mind when you know it would be received with social horror.

Sarraz mentioned last night that it must be far easier for people to find likeminded folk when living in a place like the states or europe due to population density. Unfortunately Auckland isn't exactly large and although there are a few antiquated swingers clubs around there doesn't seem to be anything around like Chemistry NYC or the like.

We're still far from being comfortable with any extra play just yet, and who knows, maybe ever, but we're in a place now where we feel comfortable talking about possibilities and how we feel about things... Read on I guess.