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mmm michael c hall sexiness.

I always like my heroes with a bit of psychosis in them.

lol thanks.. he had just got his stitches out that day.

I always thought that smoking a hookah would require a lot more pillows and curlier toes on my shoes than I was really ready to commit to.

Thanks for your kindly words. Belief can be a tedious mallet when beaten with it enough.

First i'd like to say that this was an extremely insightful read. I have had friends like this as well. Friends that will except someone to their face but talk shit about them behind their backs. This to me is bullshit. Its funny because, i often discuss the idea of tact with my best friend. She lives with someone that is extremely tactless. This person will say whatever it is that's on her mind with absolutely no regard for my friends feelings. Its clear to both of us that this person is not intentionally trying to be hurtful, but she absolutely refuses any kind of advise or criticism. She simply doesn't understand how to communicate in a non confrontational way nor does she understand how to take criticism. I think that knowing how to be tactful is a highly valuable social skill. Sometimes what is on your mind, just doesn't need to be said. On the other hand, another question my friend and i discuss is when is it OK to be a little tactless. I think it's ok to speak your mind when it would be a disservice to do otherwise. Like in the case of your group of friends. The one douchebag in your group, thinks that he has real friends there, but he really doesnt. I think, as im sure you would agree, that it is more of a disservice to lead this guy/girl on than to tell them the truth. Everyone deserves to be treated with dignity, even the people you dont like. Pretending to be someone's friend is not treating them with dignity. I think it would cause more harm to someone in the longrun to find out that all their friends are fake then to just tell them up up front. Besides, maybe this person doesnt realize he/she is a douche and by being their friend you are just reinforcing that unacceptable behavior. One day when this person looses all the friends he/she has, maybe they will change for the better. Like you said, everyone is different and we arent obligated to like whomever we meet.

Another thing im not willing to tolerate is someone that is two-faced. The trouble with this is that sometimes it takes a while to realize someones true colors. I simply cannot stand people that are nice to your face but talk shit behind your back. These kinds of people are no friends of mine, no matter how many of my other friends are willing to tolerate them. Lucky for me, since ive grown older i have gotten much better at choosing friends. The group of friends i have now all share very similar beliefs and values as i do so i dont foresee having to deal with these kinds of issues anytime soon. But if it does ever come up, you'd better believe that im not just gonna stand around and pretend if i dont like someone. I'd either come right out and say it, or remove myself from the situation.

Again great, articulate, and insightful blog post. I really enjoyed reading and responding to it . i especially loved your last line "maybe i won't ever win a reward or credit for benevolence, but i sure as hell will never be accused of being a tactless dick". That made me chuckle, but it is super true about me as well.

i agree with above. septum! =D

p90x ouch. i eventually want to start that, but right now am doing the 30 day shred. im so out of shape, so hopefully after my 30 days ill be a little less out of shape. lol.

good luck sheepanda! any attempt to get in better shape is a good one. i guess it's going to be a septum...easier for me to hide at work as well. *grin*

Try to keep me posted about the p90x thing. I have thought about it and you are a real person so I am interested to know how it works for you.

no problem...can do.

Speaking from experience, you have hit #9 right on the head. Very good advice and reading.

the whole blog is based on my personal experiences...i used to be quite retarded.

i wanna see idle hands just based on the cover, lol.

(fyi, i am one other person who actually reads blogs)

good to know...

thank you pretty lady.