well, i got my banana muffin. the next thing on the list is sleep, but unfortunately that's being delayed by a mountain of late-night work (which is being delayed by my sg journal, go figure).
i've got a bit of a situation. for some reason, people always think i'm older than i am. i get anything from 26 to 30ish. i don't think i look older than i am, i think it's something about the way i talk. people tell me i am "mature." this might be a code word for "grumpy and cantankerous." but still, somehow i pull off "mature" while running around town in red short shorts and a neon pink golf shirt that's 3 sizes too small. i should share the photos.
anyways, to get to the situation: i tend to attract older women. not soccer moms or cougars, but crazy cool exciting girls. the last three women i've been with have all been more than 5 years my senior. my new crush is no exception. she's so beautiful she makes my jaw drop. but despite that she still seems to like me. ...and she has a kid.
this doesn't immediately bother me. i like most kids i meet, they usually like me. but i feel an added responsibility in getting involved with her. obviously it means to a certain degree getting involved with her family life. and she's definitely girlfriend material rather than a fling.
i guess i'm just a bit intimidated. but given our different ages, we may be at different points in our lives. i don't know if i'm ready to be a surrogate dad, should i end up getting serious with her. does this even happen? i don't know. but i don't want to screw up some poor kid's childhood because i get in over my head. i also don't want to miss a great opportunity. thoughts? anyone have experience with this?
i've got a bit of a situation. for some reason, people always think i'm older than i am. i get anything from 26 to 30ish. i don't think i look older than i am, i think it's something about the way i talk. people tell me i am "mature." this might be a code word for "grumpy and cantankerous." but still, somehow i pull off "mature" while running around town in red short shorts and a neon pink golf shirt that's 3 sizes too small. i should share the photos.
anyways, to get to the situation: i tend to attract older women. not soccer moms or cougars, but crazy cool exciting girls. the last three women i've been with have all been more than 5 years my senior. my new crush is no exception. she's so beautiful she makes my jaw drop. but despite that she still seems to like me. ...and she has a kid.
this doesn't immediately bother me. i like most kids i meet, they usually like me. but i feel an added responsibility in getting involved with her. obviously it means to a certain degree getting involved with her family life. and she's definitely girlfriend material rather than a fling.
i guess i'm just a bit intimidated. but given our different ages, we may be at different points in our lives. i don't know if i'm ready to be a surrogate dad, should i end up getting serious with her. does this even happen? i don't know. but i don't want to screw up some poor kid's childhood because i get in over my head. i also don't want to miss a great opportunity. thoughts? anyone have experience with this?
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You shouldn't be thinking too serious right away..kid or no kid..that could still freak her out and send her running for the hills.
Why does she HAVE to be thinking what kind of father you would be right away? All she has to think of is if you treat her well which will make her happy and it is her job to make her kiddo happy ...Unless of course the childs father is not in the picture...I suppose some women actually are in the frame of mind in looking for a father figure for their kid but I personally have never met one. Seen them in movies, yes.
Every situation is different. Hang out, have fun. See where it goes