I was alerted to some drama going on around here by @dmaggot. I hadn't seriously logged on in a day or so. What a difference a day makes! But I guess I should admit that I generally don't pay attention to drama around here, not anymore anyway.
(I've put a tl;dr at the bottom for those of you who don't feel like combating the wall of text.)
I don't know the parties involved, except the site obviously, but I will say this:
Drama like this happens every few years or so. And by like this I mean almost exactly like this, only the names and faces are changed.
The best part about flying under the radar here is that I'm more of a casual observer than a participant when it comes to this stuff and in my years on the site I've learned a lot of things.
First and foremost, Suicidegirls is about having fun.
I'm going to admit that I took a hiatus from the site from 2009-2014 for myriad reasons. Some of them were personal as my marriage had begun to fall apart, but some of the reasons had to do with the site itself. I had gotten too serious about it. I thought too much about why the site had rejected the sets I had submitted. I was too obsessed with who was 'popular' and why. I think back on it now and I know that it was nothing personal as why my sets were rejected. To be frank, they just weren't that great. In some instances, the shoots themselves were rushed. In others, I just didn't look my best. I can see and understand that now and in fact I think that had they accepted and posted the sets I'd be downright embarrassed by them now. And I understand now why I wasn't and will most likely never be 'popular'.
And you know what? I'm okay with all of this. That doesn't mean I don't plan on shooting for the site again. In fact, I have a shoot planned. It's been far too long since I've submitted anything and I'm pretty damn excited about doing so. I don't know if it will make the front page, but that's not why I am going to do it. I'm going to do it for fun. Because that's what SG is supposed to be about.
It took me several years to come to that conclusion, but when I did I asked @missy if I could come back and I'm glad she let me.
Too many girls get hurt when their sets don't get bought or when they don't get selected for special projects like movies or to represent the site at various cons. There's already so much stress in all of our lives. Whether you're a hopeful or a Suicidegirl, SG shouldn't be one of those things that stresses you out. It should be one of those stress relieving outlets. One of those things that enhances your life.
The second thing I've learned is that to not take SG so goddamn seriously. Suicidegirls isn't about making money. It's not a way to make a living. It's not about being better than anyone. And it's certainly not a way to be popular after all those years of school where you were a misfit and outcast. The only people who should take SG seriously are those whose livelihoods depend on it, people like @missy @sean, @lyxzen, @rambo, and the rest of the staff who work tirelessly to make this an amazing site to be a part of.
Sure, we all have our complaints about the site. I think being able to complain is what sets us apart from the animals. (I, for one, would like to see more short haired girls featured on the front page...but I digress...)
Anyway, whether you're a hopeful or an SG, if you can't enjoy the site for what it is then that sucks for you. Don't let what is essentially a really nice looking social network with naked chicks ruin your day or cause you undue stress. Don't be sad that the site didn't buy your set, that they didn't feature you on IG or FB, that they didn't invite you to SDCC, that you don't have has many followers as (insert other girls name here). Instead, be happy for the followers and interactions you have on the site.
I wasn't going to say anything, but I ready Missy's blog about Damsel leaving and the subsequent comments and I couldn't help but put in my two cents. I was going to write it as a comment itself, but it became too long and thought it better just to be its own blog post.
Tl;dr: SG is about having fun so have fun with it. It's an amazing place with a lot of awesome people. Sure, it's not perfect, but nothing in the world is perfect (except for maybe Beethoven's 9th Symphony). Enjoy it for what it is and just roll with it.
That's me naked, because why the fuck not.
