Ok, so I'm sitting here playing housewife, drying the clothes and washing the dishes. I'm also freshly home from a dinner with my best friend and her (married) boyfriend. Yep. That was great. I'm so not that lovey dovey with the person that I am deeply in love with, and he's not married. I also am watching a weird porn- Jenna Loves Bella...two hottie women, but unfortunately a strange porn. I watched Gwen on SNL. I'm so disappointed. She's so beautiful, but her new music and her new ghetto fab look...it's just not the Gwen that I grew up admiring and wanting to be like. I love that she is a chameleon, but I am so disappointed in her new choices.
This is an aside, but DAMN is BellaDonna hot!
Anyway, this was going to be a journal entry about things I believed/believed in. Here's my little disclaimer- if you don't feel the same way I do about whatever I've written, don't rail me for it, just be considerate of the fact that different people feel strongly about different things. If you want to tell me your opinion, please do so, but not in a confrontational, "my way is better" kind of discourse. Kay?
1. I believe that it's ok...to be conservative or liberal, punk or freak or prep, cheerleader, sorority sister, drama queen, unique or just like everyone else. It's ok to like metal or rap or to hate them. It's ok to embrace a lifestyle, merely tolerate it, or completely dislike it. The probelm arises when one person decides to force his/her beliefs on another, or treats a person in a derogatory manner because of their points of view. Don't automatically assume taht the only way it's supposed to be is your way.
2. "For richer or poorer, in sickness and in health, till death do us part" means just that. While I understand that there are legitimate reasons for divorce (abuse, adultery, etc), I think that too many people get married without thinking about whether or not they really want to. They figure if it ends, oh well. I've been engaged twice, and neither have ended in marriage, because somewhere along the line, before the "I do's", I realized I was making a mistake. When I say I do, unless something truly unfixable happens, it will be forever.
3. I believe that true beauty lies entirely in personality. I've not noticed some of the most physically attractive people were in fact attractive because they had such horrible attitudes and outlooks on life. The worst thing someone could say about me is "Wow, she's such a cute girl, then she opens her mouth...what a bitch!"
4. I believe it's ok to read Cosmo.
5. I believe you will find what you're looking for as soon as you stop searching so intently for it. Whether it's your house keys or true love, it will happen when you least expect it. The job you hate, the party you don't want to go to- the most suprisingly wonderful people are found there, when you least expect it.
6. I believe that no one has a set "type" of person that they are supposed to be friends and have a relationship with. While I thinkt here are definitely types of people we naturally gravitate towards, I think people should never ever limit themselves to what is just inside their comfort zone. I have goth friends, punk friends, prep friends, pothead friends and law enforcement friends, sorority sisters, friends that are far older than me...and without them I would be missing out on valuable aspects of life.
7. I believe in God. I believe there is a higher power out there and that something does happen to us when we die. People are too filled with soul and spirit for it to just be over at death. I do not, however, believe that attendance at any particular church or alliance with any particular religion is the way to salvation. Each denomination and each religion believes differently surrounding the same circumstance. It is personal belief and faith that gets you the end reward. I also believe that every religion has it's key points worth keeping faith in. Whether you are Buddhist or Jewish or Hindu or Christian, if you have faith in the god of your choosing and believe that he/she/they are with you, then you are doing good.
8. I believe in research and development. Beliefs can change, and it is up to you to continually learn about the world, so you can explain and understand your belief systems. In your studies, you might find a different way of thought suits you better, and that's ok.
9. I believe in admitting you are wrong, saying you are sorry, and admitting you can't do something. If you hurt someone, swallow your pride and apologize for it before it's too late to salvage the relationship! If you have put forth your absolute best effort at something and still can't get it done or done the way you want, admit you can't do it and ask for help! If you've done your best, that's all you can ask for!!
10. I believe I can be a feminist while washing dishes. Because I chose to take care of my man and enjoy being domestic does not mean I am under-mining what women before me have fought for . I'm not subjecting myself to a life as someone 2nd place in society...I am a strong, educated female who has an equal relationship with my man. He respects me and loves me, and I don't feel like I am hurting my fellow feminists by admitting that I like his company, and sometimes I DO need him to carry heavy things or open the pickle jar.
11. I believe that the number of people you've slept with has no bearing on whether or not you are a slut. To me, a slut is someone who has low self-esteem and little self-confidence...someone who uses sex for the wrong reasons- to feel loved and attractive only, not for the emotional connection, etc. I fyou love sex and you like it with different people, that doesn't necessarily make you a slut. If you've slept iwth 27 people and loved them all, you are no sluttier than the virgin waiting until her wedding night.
12. I believe that it is completely possible for a couple to be monogomous and remain faithful to one another. If you are true to yourself as well as to your significant other, then there is no "missing ingredient" that would cause you to look at someone else.
13. I believe that education is vital- and I'm not just spouting off about how great college is and how everyone needs a degree. Do it all on your own...read books, listen to a symphony, attend a play...always strive to expand your mind! It's your greatest asset!
Tomorrow, round two. It's off to finish the porn and go to beddy bye!
Love and hugs my lovelies!
This is an aside, but DAMN is BellaDonna hot!
Anyway, this was going to be a journal entry about things I believed/believed in. Here's my little disclaimer- if you don't feel the same way I do about whatever I've written, don't rail me for it, just be considerate of the fact that different people feel strongly about different things. If you want to tell me your opinion, please do so, but not in a confrontational, "my way is better" kind of discourse. Kay?
1. I believe that it's ok...to be conservative or liberal, punk or freak or prep, cheerleader, sorority sister, drama queen, unique or just like everyone else. It's ok to like metal or rap or to hate them. It's ok to embrace a lifestyle, merely tolerate it, or completely dislike it. The probelm arises when one person decides to force his/her beliefs on another, or treats a person in a derogatory manner because of their points of view. Don't automatically assume taht the only way it's supposed to be is your way.
2. "For richer or poorer, in sickness and in health, till death do us part" means just that. While I understand that there are legitimate reasons for divorce (abuse, adultery, etc), I think that too many people get married without thinking about whether or not they really want to. They figure if it ends, oh well. I've been engaged twice, and neither have ended in marriage, because somewhere along the line, before the "I do's", I realized I was making a mistake. When I say I do, unless something truly unfixable happens, it will be forever.
3. I believe that true beauty lies entirely in personality. I've not noticed some of the most physically attractive people were in fact attractive because they had such horrible attitudes and outlooks on life. The worst thing someone could say about me is "Wow, she's such a cute girl, then she opens her mouth...what a bitch!"
4. I believe it's ok to read Cosmo.
5. I believe you will find what you're looking for as soon as you stop searching so intently for it. Whether it's your house keys or true love, it will happen when you least expect it. The job you hate, the party you don't want to go to- the most suprisingly wonderful people are found there, when you least expect it.
6. I believe that no one has a set "type" of person that they are supposed to be friends and have a relationship with. While I thinkt here are definitely types of people we naturally gravitate towards, I think people should never ever limit themselves to what is just inside their comfort zone. I have goth friends, punk friends, prep friends, pothead friends and law enforcement friends, sorority sisters, friends that are far older than me...and without them I would be missing out on valuable aspects of life.
7. I believe in God. I believe there is a higher power out there and that something does happen to us when we die. People are too filled with soul and spirit for it to just be over at death. I do not, however, believe that attendance at any particular church or alliance with any particular religion is the way to salvation. Each denomination and each religion believes differently surrounding the same circumstance. It is personal belief and faith that gets you the end reward. I also believe that every religion has it's key points worth keeping faith in. Whether you are Buddhist or Jewish or Hindu or Christian, if you have faith in the god of your choosing and believe that he/she/they are with you, then you are doing good.
8. I believe in research and development. Beliefs can change, and it is up to you to continually learn about the world, so you can explain and understand your belief systems. In your studies, you might find a different way of thought suits you better, and that's ok.
9. I believe in admitting you are wrong, saying you are sorry, and admitting you can't do something. If you hurt someone, swallow your pride and apologize for it before it's too late to salvage the relationship! If you have put forth your absolute best effort at something and still can't get it done or done the way you want, admit you can't do it and ask for help! If you've done your best, that's all you can ask for!!
10. I believe I can be a feminist while washing dishes. Because I chose to take care of my man and enjoy being domestic does not mean I am under-mining what women before me have fought for . I'm not subjecting myself to a life as someone 2nd place in society...I am a strong, educated female who has an equal relationship with my man. He respects me and loves me, and I don't feel like I am hurting my fellow feminists by admitting that I like his company, and sometimes I DO need him to carry heavy things or open the pickle jar.
11. I believe that the number of people you've slept with has no bearing on whether or not you are a slut. To me, a slut is someone who has low self-esteem and little self-confidence...someone who uses sex for the wrong reasons- to feel loved and attractive only, not for the emotional connection, etc. I fyou love sex and you like it with different people, that doesn't necessarily make you a slut. If you've slept iwth 27 people and loved them all, you are no sluttier than the virgin waiting until her wedding night.
12. I believe that it is completely possible for a couple to be monogomous and remain faithful to one another. If you are true to yourself as well as to your significant other, then there is no "missing ingredient" that would cause you to look at someone else.
13. I believe that education is vital- and I'm not just spouting off about how great college is and how everyone needs a degree. Do it all on your own...read books, listen to a symphony, attend a play...always strive to expand your mind! It's your greatest asset!
Tomorrow, round two. It's off to finish the porn and go to beddy bye!
Love and hugs my lovelies!
VIEW 3 of 3 COMMENTS
1) I am not big on conservatives. Conservatives are very close-minded which makes them more likely cause problems in society. Liberals are very open-minded and think things out more often.
2) I person see no logical reason to get married. It merely costs money to express a sentiment that can be expressed for free. It also legally makes your spouse a piece of property to be owned and I though love was suppose to be against the owning of another person.
3) True beauty does lie in personality, but physical beauty must exist more often then not so the individuals can come to know the true beauty inside.
4) It is okay to look at the pictures in cosmo. Hell that is where I saw my first naked boobies.
5) You will never find anything if you are not open to finding it. Considering the finding of your cop, this has little or nothing to do with keys. Love only comes to those who are looking for it, if someone isn't looking for it then they will never see what is right there in front of them. You must have a open mind to something in order to acknowledge its existance.
6) There isn't a set type, but at least for me there is a perfect women which I have defined in my mind and the girls who more closely meet my ideal women are going to be the ones I am more likely to see as more then friends.
7) God doesn't exist. Nature is all around us and all we know is nature. There is no proof of a god so there is no reason to rationally find a god in or outside of nature. And without proof of a god and only knowing nature, it is only logical to conclude that only nature exists. Faith is irrational and is something I am incapable of.
8) This subject is what my last 4 or 5 years of my life have been about: change. Over those years I have questioned everything I have thought to be true and in the study of those things come to a rational conclusion to them. Leaving me a completely different person then when I started. So yes I agree.
9) I believe in admiting you are wrong but I find it very hard to except someone's sorry. People do things to benefit themselves and often don't consider how there actions will effect another person. If they honestly are sorry, then they would have never done it because they would have thought prior to it and not done what they are sorry for. But on a rare occasion they might have not been able to foresee the effects so then I would except sorry.
10) I believe I can be a guy and wash dishes too.
11) I completely agree with you on the definition of a slut, it really does matter how many people you have been with if they have been for a good reason.
12) Monogomy will only exist if all needs/wants are being met by the other person, but over time peoples desires change and they find they have differents needs/wants then before and they find that the person can't or won't satisfy those needs/wants so they go elsewhere. Not meaning that they no longer care for the person just that relationships are all about the coming together of people to satisfy the needs/wants they can't or don't want to satisfy themselves. Mankind by nature is going to do what he must in order to satisfy those needs/wants regardless of the idea of love.
13) There is nothing more important then a education. Plus there is not much sexer then class and class comes from education. The important thing about an education is to have a open mind the entire time you are being educated, because if you don't you will never learn anything.