Ok. So, anyway, my love life is . . . ummm . . . odd . . .
I haven't had a real date in years. And since if sworn off one-night-stands, I haven't had much in the way of physical intimacy. Which, as I get older, I've gotten used to.
Anyway, I've been friends with a young lady for about 15 years (which is a statement that makes me feel old like no other). We tried to date for a bit a few years ago, but she is also a very close friend to several of my cousins, and in their calm and gentle way, started putting pressure on us like crazy. So, after about a week or so, we gave it up and went our seperate ways. Other than a few meetings at NYE parties and weddings, we haven't had much contact.
That leads us up to a few months ago. I got around to signing up for a facebook page. Lo and behold, she and I bumped into each other on that evil site and started talking (and flirting a bit). Somehow, she hasn't gotten married (or really had much of a dating life) over the last few years. She's been building up her career as a teen counselor and has a schedule that makes me dizzy to think about. Anyway, during the last couple of months, we've seen each other twice, and things have gotten a bit physical (although she's still a virgin, and we haven't gone too far).
Sounds very sophisitcated and comfortable, eh? One small problem. She has dreams of getting married and shooting out a few kids. And I don't. We both know this about each other. There aren't any illusions, at least on my part. But I have this fear that she is putting me into her plans for the future. I know she is very sensible, but she is also approaching 30. I don't mean that in a bad way. But I do know that she has spent the last few weeks attending bridal and baby showers pretty much every weekend, and I've seen before when a woman watches all her friends move on to the next stage in life.
I feel like I'm generalizing here. I don't have any proof that she is going to act in any particular way. I just have a fear that she is wanting more from me than I am willing to give, and she might think she can change me around to her way of thinking. But I simply don't want kids. I am an uncle. That is enough for me.
I haven't had a real date in years. And since if sworn off one-night-stands, I haven't had much in the way of physical intimacy. Which, as I get older, I've gotten used to.
Anyway, I've been friends with a young lady for about 15 years (which is a statement that makes me feel old like no other). We tried to date for a bit a few years ago, but she is also a very close friend to several of my cousins, and in their calm and gentle way, started putting pressure on us like crazy. So, after about a week or so, we gave it up and went our seperate ways. Other than a few meetings at NYE parties and weddings, we haven't had much contact.
That leads us up to a few months ago. I got around to signing up for a facebook page. Lo and behold, she and I bumped into each other on that evil site and started talking (and flirting a bit). Somehow, she hasn't gotten married (or really had much of a dating life) over the last few years. She's been building up her career as a teen counselor and has a schedule that makes me dizzy to think about. Anyway, during the last couple of months, we've seen each other twice, and things have gotten a bit physical (although she's still a virgin, and we haven't gone too far).
Sounds very sophisitcated and comfortable, eh? One small problem. She has dreams of getting married and shooting out a few kids. And I don't. We both know this about each other. There aren't any illusions, at least on my part. But I have this fear that she is putting me into her plans for the future. I know she is very sensible, but she is also approaching 30. I don't mean that in a bad way. But I do know that she has spent the last few weeks attending bridal and baby showers pretty much every weekend, and I've seen before when a woman watches all her friends move on to the next stage in life.
I feel like I'm generalizing here. I don't have any proof that she is going to act in any particular way. I just have a fear that she is wanting more from me than I am willing to give, and she might think she can change me around to her way of thinking. But I simply don't want kids. I am an uncle. That is enough for me.
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And no, no pigtails.