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Okay, so the past several days have been very hard. The loss of Grrlhavoc's father, has been a great loss and sadness for both of us. Obviously more so fer her, but also for me. I was fortunate enough to get to spend quite a bit of time with him and get to know him over the past several months.

Her dad was such a wonderful man, kind and loving and he cared so much for Grrlhavoc. I truely wish that everyone in the world was given the opportunity to meet her father. He loved all people and children, and no matter if they were his children or grandchildren, he took them in as if they were his own.

This man was not very accepting of the idea that his daughter was gay, but he knew who I was, that I was his daughter's partner/ girlfriend, whatever you want to call it. And the first time I met him as he was leaving he told me to take care of her. Then he and I spent a lot of time together with Grrlhavoc while she was sick in the hospital. We would play board games and cards in the evenings, and have long discussions. While Grrlhavoc was in surgery the second time, we sat out in the surgery waiting room, and talked to one another, made all of the necessary phone calls, and probably were both terribly worried and nervous.

My mother even met him and then immediately went home to tell the rest of my family how so very nice he was. I could not agree with that more.

But I will never forget the last conversation Grrlhavoc's father and I had. As he was leaving the hospital the evening before she was released (the second time) he told me that he and her mother appreciated my taking care of their little girl so well. He continued on to say that he felt like he had gained another daughter in me, and that he loved me. These words touched me more than anything anyone has said to me in probably my whole life (at least as far as I can remember).

Grrlhavoc and I felt that this was his way of excepting us for who we were. And I believe that Grrlhavoc is happy that he said that before he passed.

I felt like I had gained another father, well actually her Grrlhavoc's dad was more of a father to me than, my step-father, or real father ever really have been. Don't get me wrong, I love my father with all of my heart, and he is a great man as well, he just hasn't really been around very much in my life, since he and my mother divorced.

I just wanted everyone to know, how much my sweetie's father meant to me and to her, and her whole family, and what a truely wonderful man he was.

This is a very difficult time for all of those who were close to him, but we all know that he did not suffer, and he is in a better place, where he always wanted to be.