Men's fantasies of the "Sadder but Wiser Girl":
Probably more real:
When Robin now three days had married been,
And all his friends and neighbors gave him joy,
This question to his wife he asked then --
Why till her marriage day she prov'd so coy?
"Indeed," said he, "'twas well thou didst not yield,
For doubtless then my purpose was to leave thee."
"O sir, I once before was so beguil'd,
And was resolved the next should not deceive me."
(And for the curious, a discovery I made in the past on that poem.)
Probably more real:
When Robin now three days had married been,
And all his friends and neighbors gave him joy,
This question to his wife he asked then --
Why till her marriage day she prov'd so coy?
"Indeed," said he, "'twas well thou didst not yield,
For doubtless then my purpose was to leave thee."
"O sir, I once before was so beguil'd,
And was resolved the next should not deceive me."
(And for the curious, a discovery I made in the past on that poem.)
oldernow:
I am touched by your poignant comment; the first response to a woman's body can be so beautiful or so very unkind - an unkindness often based in the arrogant laziness of male sexuality. My gf has small and uneven breasts and is very shy about them - and her 6 foot height; her mother is well endowed and has spent a lifetime strapping down her chest to near boyish proportions - evidently incarnating her rejection of her sexuality in her daughter's body. My first 'job' as my gf's lover was - and still is - to guide her to see her body as I see it - a sweet, youthful, passionate vehicle for her love and strength, not as a living failure contrasted to some unmet photoshopped model (who no doubt is burdened with her own body issues). so, I wish for you the honest appreciation of what you offer to your lover, and the banishment of your discomfortable experiences!
thebeliever:
In response to the post above: I've never understood the attraction to virgins. And in response to your comment on my blog... oh, I never tell them those things. I teach them English, not morals.