Always the friend, never the lover, always the brother figure, never the lover. I may never understand girls (and maybe thats the problem, they have not yet become women and may never) that bitch about the asshole they are dating, and have this fantasy about some consummate gentleman.
This hapless fellow, gentleman that he is, stumbles into her life and they become friends(why this is an issue later I also do not understand). ((I am patting myself a bit on the back here as I do have my testosterone moments but they are fairly rare)). In time this girl breaks up with the asshole, or maybe even a decent guy but not quite what she envisioned.
CG, as we will call him, after some time of separation or extended period of single status professes interest in his lovely, now available friend. She takes 10 minutes to respond and, much to his experienced dismay, utilizes the most cliche line in existence. I really love.......... <being said qualities>, and I don't want to lose you as a friend, you are so.....<said qualities/behaviors> to me and I can not imagine losing that
That is what perturbs me the most!
Some guys may become assholes eventually and i recognize that but the line is used sooooooo fucking often it sickens me. I have heard plenty of my friends tell stories of their fathers telling them to, "Be nice to the nerdy
girls in high school, they will be beautiful in there 20's and beyond, the cheerleaders will be fat crack whore's". Obviously that is a blanket statement and not always true as a result. However, it is true often enough it is worth the so called "risk", and if it does not work out then the break up will be painful. But, if love is not painful it is not worth pursuing.
Please, someone, tell me that I am crazy or that there are women that actually want a gentleman and someone who will actually honor them without being patronizing, you know-that whole "equal status" thing. I am right fucking here, give one a goddamned chance! I admit, this frustrates me to no end, although this is not just for me. Women deserve a man that will treat them well and not like baby factories, house cleaners, cooks or whatever. EQUALS DAMNNIT!! Fuck you misogynistic
douchebags
, your dick does not make you better, in many ways it makes you worse!
Finally, this is how my great-grandmother raised me to treat people not only gender, gender-identity and sexual preference but also without regard to ethnicity, religion or political affiliation. I am not perfect by any stretching of the definition of the word but I strive daily to truly understand everyone as much as possible. I do hope in my interaction here with all of you that I come across that way and if I do not then i demand criticism. Not the "fuck you prick" variety, but the positive kind we all need. I love you all! Mwah!
This hapless fellow, gentleman that he is, stumbles into her life and they become friends(why this is an issue later I also do not understand). ((I am patting myself a bit on the back here as I do have my testosterone moments but they are fairly rare)). In time this girl breaks up with the asshole, or maybe even a decent guy but not quite what she envisioned.
CG, as we will call him, after some time of separation or extended period of single status professes interest in his lovely, now available friend. She takes 10 minutes to respond and, much to his experienced dismay, utilizes the most cliche line in existence. I really love.......... <being said qualities>, and I don't want to lose you as a friend, you are so.....<said qualities/behaviors> to me and I can not imagine losing that
That is what perturbs me the most!
Some guys may become assholes eventually and i recognize that but the line is used sooooooo fucking often it sickens me. I have heard plenty of my friends tell stories of their fathers telling them to, "Be nice to the nerdy girls in high school, they will be beautiful in there 20's and beyond, the cheerleaders will be fat crack whore's". Obviously that is a blanket statement and not always true as a result. However, it is true often enough it is worth the so called "risk", and if it does not work out then the break up will be painful. But, if love is not painful it is not worth pursuing.
Please, someone, tell me that I am crazy or that there are women that actually want a gentleman and someone who will actually honor them without being patronizing, you know-that whole "equal status" thing. I am right fucking here, give one a goddamned chance! I admit, this frustrates me to no end, although this is not just for me. Women deserve a man that will treat them well and not like baby factories, house cleaners, cooks or whatever. EQUALS DAMNNIT!! Fuck you misogynistic
douchebags, your dick does not make you better, in many ways it makes you worse!
Finally, this is how my great-grandmother raised me to treat people not only gender, gender-identity and sexual preference but also without regard to ethnicity, religion or political affiliation. I am not perfect by any stretching of the definition of the word but I strive daily to truly understand everyone as much as possible. I do hope in my interaction here with all of you that I come across that way and if I do not then i demand criticism. Not the "fuck you prick" variety, but the positive kind we all need. I love you all! Mwah!
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I guess we just continue to be the best that we can be..? Easier said than done. Hugs.