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Gotta Love Communion!

it is pretty painful, and i'm more than sure that it looks hot.
let me know how the tat turns out.

i'm still working on the specifics of it. it's going to be a shoulder piece though(left).........it sounds good in my head, we'll see though.

have a good night lil lady.

i'm sorry that you are hurting...i am out of work (i left my job as psych tech manager of a rehab because i was too stressed out) and slipping into depression and unfortunately have gotten money from my parents to pay for my bills/rent this month, which, in combination with my depression, drives my self-esteem into the shitter...i am glad i can do this, but i also feel like i am not a man, but a child (at best)...i have totally sold out in that respect (and the fact that i am bipolar and this keeps flaring up due to external stimulus such as work/leaving work/seasonal/etc. makes me feel even more defective/useless.) I do not mean to compare myself to the feelings or the situation you are going through though, just letting it out and chatting to a fellow friend who's struggling...please be careful and take care of yourself and let me know if there is anything i can do.

chris

p.s. of something is tearing you up inside that bad, maybe it is not for you. there has to be another way.

(hugs)
hope you feel better soon

hi there.

hope your holiday went well lil lady.

take care.

i like the art and words.

save me from another day of sitting on my ass and watching TV/writing/reading/taking walks around my neighborhood.

words of advice that someone should listen to: don't quit your job until you have another job lined up.

long live polygamy....Yeah!!!

viva la revolucion.....

...crazy....

very well spoken. everyone has thier own path.

have a lovely weekend lil lady.

word.

eh....it comes down to respect for the other person and the lines that are drawn - the actual lines mind you not the stated lines- by the "object" of desire.

So for example, if my attractive friend has a boyfriend, loves him and I respect her and/or him (if I don't respect them they're not really a friend) there is no problem. I've been in this situation many times and it works fine. There is just a fundamental mind frame that changes and they become something other than an object of desire. I can shut it down pretty effectively on command.

Now...if she is flirty, doesn't draw out distinct boundaries, is clearly attracted, basically not committed to the sexual cease fire (I've been there too) and I'm attracted...well this is bad. I usually cannot be strong for the both of us. This is where I see the situation break down.

If both parties conspire to sabotage the sexual cease fire through boundary testing and innuendo....it really was doomed from the start.

So basically, if a woman wants to just be friends, it is entirely do-able as long as she is serious about it and committed to it through action.

The one wrinkle to this is...if she is single, the guy sometimes has a hard time convincing himself to not "give it the college try", or simply he has difficulty not attempting to win her over out of fear that he may miss an opportunity for true love because he was not aggressive enough or didn't pursue her and induce the situation to it's potential conclusion. He mises signals because he is wearing the "blinders of hope".

Basically the "missed opportunity" syndrome. I'm sure you're familiar with it. The old, "at least I tried" or "I'd go crazy thinking I had a chance but didn't take that chance and know for sure."

So things get complicated because humans have a fantastic ability to sublimate the obvious signals being sent by another if they are blinded by love or desire. It's self-actualization gone wrong. It's those guys you always say "can't take a hint."

A lot of "dense" or "persistent" guys are just plain meat headed morons, in which case they just want to get their dick wet....but I assume you would never befriend one of those type, so we're back to the previous explanation.

It's complicated...but I love the link and discussion...interesting...thanks

i actually think it is possible for men to be friends with women that they are attracted to under one condition. the guy has to be in love (and mean for real in love) with a girl. at least that is how it is for me. when i am in love i get blinders that make it capable for real friendship with other pretty girls; however if the love goes bottom up, i will imedediately become attracted to said girls.

sweet ass sketch

youre such a clever and profound girl