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Did you read my blog @mrwaverly ? I can't help being sad today. My dad died 7 years ago in August. I miss them both

You must never be ashamed to be sad. Sad is good, so long as you never let it take over. You have possibly heard of the Portuguese term 'Saudade', which has no direct translation, but can be described as 'The love that remains'. Your love for a person close to you will never die, and in some way, that love keeps that lost person alive in your mind. Most of the time, my mum and dad are way off in the back of my mind (probably arguing), but every now and then, something will make me think of them. I know they wouldn't want me to brood on their absence. I have mentioned, on another person's page, the problems I had after mum died; unwarranted feelings of guilt...self doubt, etc. All unfounded, but grief will do that.  I'm over it now, but I'll never forget them. Never stop loving them. But, as I said, they live on in my memory, and there they don't intrude. But if I want to see them, I know where they are. I don't call on them that often. I know they don't mind.  Much love, xxxxx