last night we did talk through what had bothered me about the rule changes and some of my fears to this whole thing, she told me she was a bit tired and scared and one of the things i guess she feared was me leaving her because i found someone who might be better in bed, while i've had similar thoughts as well, i reassured her that no matter what i dont care how good the other girl is in bed im not going to leave her. Even if i start dating a girl who is skinnier then her i wouldn't leave my fiance for my girlfriend (still going to have to get used to this!), and she feared me hooking up randomly at the bar because we want to be safe and really don't want to introduce STI's into this, which is totally understandable, however if its someone i know and can trust im allowed to hook up for the night, so basically we didnt change any rules because the new rules were based on fear alone. I still feel this is a good direction for the both of us and already i have been able to be more open with her and we both have been hornier then hell lately, one day at a time i guess lol