family drama is still going on. oh the joys. we're wondering if my younger sister is making a good decision. but it is her life to live.
visited my aunt this past Saturday. my older sister came out, too. quite unexpected. but it was nice to see her, since I haven't seen her since, um, February I think!
my aunt brought up some good points. she's in grief counseling right now (the entire fact that my uncle, her husband, committed suicide in December). she's learning how we, as a society, teach our children to hide how we feel. you know, those lines like "You have to be strong for the family, no crying" and "If you continue to cry, I'll give you something to cry about" or "So the kids were picking on you. Come in, we'll have something to eat and everything will be okay"
so she's learning this, and is working through her feelings now to adapt and deal.
good lesson to learn I would say is let your kids express how they feel. telling them not to is bad. my Mom hasn't learned that with me. now, well, she has no idea how to talk to me! or listen to me.
visited my aunt this past Saturday. my older sister came out, too. quite unexpected. but it was nice to see her, since I haven't seen her since, um, February I think!
my aunt brought up some good points. she's in grief counseling right now (the entire fact that my uncle, her husband, committed suicide in December). she's learning how we, as a society, teach our children to hide how we feel. you know, those lines like "You have to be strong for the family, no crying" and "If you continue to cry, I'll give you something to cry about" or "So the kids were picking on you. Come in, we'll have something to eat and everything will be okay"
so she's learning this, and is working through her feelings now to adapt and deal.
good lesson to learn I would say is let your kids express how they feel. telling them not to is bad. my Mom hasn't learned that with me. now, well, she has no idea how to talk to me! or listen to me.
i agree about the kid thing. i always hated being told those things. really rotten.
my sister went to grief counseling after my brother died, ooooh did my mom not like that! she doesnt believe in counseling at all.......and is in complete denial that anyone in our family should go.