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JUNE 5, 2009 @ 05:39 PM


Well, I'm in an open relationship, so sometimes I occasionally hook up with different people (usually a threesome, a lot of time I'm not comfortable meeting up with someone when I'm alone). Last night I was talking to a kinda-ex-girlfriend (It's complicated >.< ) and we strated talking about the idea of getting together sometime. But I worry: She seems to be getting emotionally attached, and I have a boyfriend who I care a whole lot about. It's hard for me to make it clear to her that I'm not willing to give him up for her, she's emotionally unstable and has been in and out of mental institutions, a couple times for breakdowns, and once most recently for attempted suicide. I'm very worried about her, and she tells me she's lonely, so I wanted to keep her company and give her something to feel good about. She has a negative self image and I think she needs to be told that she's beautiful, so I tell her. But like I said, she's emotionally needy. I'm kind of stressed out because I need to be there for her, but still establish boundaries. Any suggestions on what I should do???
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Pagz

Pagz

Victoria, BC
March 2005

JUN 05, 2009 09:57 PM

That's a really tough spot. I'm gonna say I think it would be a mistake to take that relationship anywhere physical. She's not in the head space where she can cope with that if you aren't in it for more than just sex. As good as it might make her feel about herself at the time, afterwards it's just going to drive her deeper into depression. Be her friend, reinforce that she's attractive and awesome, but keep it platonic. If she gets upset, just explain that you have a bf and you don't think it would be a good idea because she's going to want what you can't give her. Just let her know it's not that she's unattractive, but that you just don't want to see her get hurt.

Best I can suggest.

devyxx

devyxx

Gainesville, GA
May 2009

JUN 05, 2009 10:44 PM

thank you.
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