I see a lot of SWTOR activity on SG - it's hard to not jump in and say "Oh oh!! Mee!!" and spill all the secret beans. I've never had a problem keeping secrets (especially when they break my NDA) - but I find topless women have make me want to tell them everything I know. Fuck. damn you and your stunning boobs. I think...
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sunspun:
I love you. 
ihsv1683:
yes indeed....who needs acid?
Today was a SLOW day at work. Most of the office was away - so only around 10 of us were there (out of 300+). For a game developer, that is nuts. There are ALWAYS people at work. Today I moved around bugs, replied to far too many emails, then left early 
2 more days of 'optional' days for which I get time off in...
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bobtheflower:
Ha! *Start*!!
I could bring a retail kit to work. The devkits don't play finished games, unfortunately. I do have steam though...
I could bring a retail kit to work. The devkits don't play finished games, unfortunately. I do have steam though...
nonanon:
what are you thinking? tattoowise?
My Tablet does skype! Holy awesome batman.
Apparently I need to check out more apps for that thing.
Good for porn at work, and chatting with video! What else can it do? Stay tuned..
Apparently I need to check out more apps for that thing.
Good for porn at work, and chatting with video! What else can it do? Stay tuned..
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bobtheflower:
Galaxy S 10.1
And I will definitely add you
And I will definitely add you
ginebra:
Thanks 
https://www.facebook.com/steampunkcouture
I adore this woman's work (photos AND her clothing design). She is impossibly skinny, but I still find her incredibly attractive. It is partly her looks, and the fact she likes steampunk. Steampunk cosplay rules.
I adore this woman's work (photos AND her clothing design). She is impossibly skinny, but I still find her incredibly attractive. It is partly her looks, and the fact she likes steampunk. Steampunk cosplay rules.
sunspun:
I like her. I am totally jealous of her wardrobe and her skills. Have you seen her studio pics?
Also, <3 socks! One of the great things of colder weather, knee-highs.
Also, <3 socks! One of the great things of colder weather, knee-highs.
bobtheflower:
I've checked her site and fb page, but not much more than that. I might have to now though.
XKCD.Com
'Nuff said
/nerd
'Nuff said
/nerd
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nonanon:
I love xkcd! I check it more often than my e-mail
And I love that I learn something new every time I read it
And I love that I learn something new every time I read it
sunspun:
What do I win?
Finally figured out favorites. This could be awesome. My kinks (?) laid bare for all to see. Or, my friends anyway.
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sunspun:
The necklace was a gift from a friend from Turkey. It's lovely and hazel and brings out my eyes, though you can't really tell in this shot- I will try again when I'm sober. . Glad you appreciate it 
Some days I am actually happy. Today is a good example.
As my status says (currently) The universe fucking rules.
As my status says (currently) The universe fucking rules.
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tbars:
That was nice of you to help Sunspun. Kudos to you and your random act of kindness
Can't sleep, clowns will eat me.
Stories anyone? Maybe some good porn? Anything?
Stories anyone? Maybe some good porn? Anything?
sunspun:
*kiss*
You rock my life.
I suppose I shall have to write you a story in return
Feel free to request a topic! I am always looking for inspiration.
You rock my life.
I suppose I shall have to write you a story in return
Feel free to request a topic! I am always looking for inspiration.
Long talk with my girlfriend about our relationship. Not an easy talk at all. I talked about everything that I don't like about us. No time for myself, use of emotional blackmail to get what she wants, her hints of marriage (even though we obviously are not anywhere near ready)....it was both awesome, and fucking awful.
The day after (yesterday) she had a list of...
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sunspun:
That sounds like it must have been very tough. 
The good news is it sounds like you both can talk about your issues, which is a great place to start. I have gone through the "what's wrong, how can we fix it" stage in just about every relationship, cause I do longer relationships. It's never easy. You seem to be dealing with it fairly well though! That's hopeful!
Unsolicited advice that you probably know: Telling people what is wrong is good, but calling them out on it all the time can suck for both of you, and make you both feel that things are going more poorly than they are cause you talk about what's wrong more than anything else. If your partner is feeling insecure and vulnerable, this will only make it much, much worse. You want the total number of positive events to outweigh the negative ones, or the relationship will fail in the process of trying to heal it. I use the F-f ratio as my shorthand calculus for this- you want to fuck more than you fight.
I find that instead complimenting and encouraging positive things is the best way to deal with it. So for example if your issue is that your partner isn't helping out with the chores, tell them all about how much it means to you when they help out around the house, acknowledge when they do even small things, compliment them on how good they are at doing tasks. Get some time to really think about why it means so much to you that they do chores, and express your satisfaction readily and warmly.
This does, however, entail that you are in a place where you can authentically and honestly compliment your partner, and not say these things in a condescending, sarcastic manner or otherwise make passive aggressive digs at them. This is why this method really only works after you have communicated your concerns fully, so you feel like your grievances are fully expressed and you are committed to start making it better.
The good news is it sounds like you both can talk about your issues, which is a great place to start. I have gone through the "what's wrong, how can we fix it" stage in just about every relationship, cause I do longer relationships. It's never easy. You seem to be dealing with it fairly well though! That's hopeful!
Unsolicited advice that you probably know: Telling people what is wrong is good, but calling them out on it all the time can suck for both of you, and make you both feel that things are going more poorly than they are cause you talk about what's wrong more than anything else. If your partner is feeling insecure and vulnerable, this will only make it much, much worse. You want the total number of positive events to outweigh the negative ones, or the relationship will fail in the process of trying to heal it. I use the F-f ratio as my shorthand calculus for this- you want to fuck more than you fight.
I find that instead complimenting and encouraging positive things is the best way to deal with it. So for example if your issue is that your partner isn't helping out with the chores, tell them all about how much it means to you when they help out around the house, acknowledge when they do even small things, compliment them on how good they are at doing tasks. Get some time to really think about why it means so much to you that they do chores, and express your satisfaction readily and warmly.
This does, however, entail that you are in a place where you can authentically and honestly compliment your partner, and not say these things in a condescending, sarcastic manner or otherwise make passive aggressive digs at them. This is why this method really only works after you have communicated your concerns fully, so you feel like your grievances are fully expressed and you are committed to start making it better.
bobtheflower:
Seems like excellent advice! I will definitely give that a whirl
The fact we got through it at all is what give me hope. There was a lot to talk about, and none of it was fun. Hopefully we both learn what we needed.
The fact we got through it at all is what give me hope. There was a lot to talk about, and none of it was fun. Hopefully we both learn what we needed.
My brain is all over the map today (tonight). Insane day at work - nothing bad happened, just SO much going on. It's all worth it in the end, it's just a bit of a slog to get there.
I spent some time looking at retirement (I am aiming for 55 - though that is going to be hard as hell to hit) - I...
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sunspun:
I love your dreams for the future. If I had the balls to dream I think mine would be similar- except for me, work in the home involves cooking, growing my own food, fostering animals, writing... Things like that. Domesticity is good for my soul. But I also crave new experiences and so getting out of town would be important. Gosh, now I am feeling all wistful...
You know, I am not sure that I am any more authentically myself here than I am in the rest of my life- I feel like the way I am here is a reaction to reality, it's responsive to how things are going for me and where I'm at. Sometimes it's just a little self indulgence, and not always the good kind. I would like to think that I am not at core as obsessed with myself as I may seem to be here, in writing. Perhaps living a life so utterly devoted to caring for others leaves me with this need for self-centeredness. Either way, bob, I am glad you have this place and it's working for you. You always struck me as a guy who could use an excuse to unwind. And, as I'm sure you know, sharing this space with you has been delightful for me. You bring the eroticism to the sex.
You know, I am not sure that I am any more authentically myself here than I am in the rest of my life- I feel like the way I am here is a reaction to reality, it's responsive to how things are going for me and where I'm at. Sometimes it's just a little self indulgence, and not always the good kind. I would like to think that I am not at core as obsessed with myself as I may seem to be here, in writing. Perhaps living a life so utterly devoted to caring for others leaves me with this need for self-centeredness. Either way, bob, I am glad you have this place and it's working for you. You always struck me as a guy who could use an excuse to unwind.
And, as I'm sure you know, sharing this space with you has been delightful for me. You bring the eroticism to the sex. I think that Kemper might be my favorite suicidegirl at the moment. Feel free to disagree, but you must post a link to your favorite. Redheads get bonus points...
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bobtheflower:
Exactly!? What *can* I do?? It's like they use their powers for evil
And thanks. Still can't ID me, but it indicates I am at least real...
And thanks. Still can't ID me, but it indicates I am at least real...
sunspun:
Real > unreal
And I seriously doubt there are redheads using their powers in anyway that is not ultimately in your best interests... so evil might be stretching it
And I seriously doubt there are redheads using their powers in anyway that is not ultimately in your best interests... so evil might be stretching it
I have some awesome friends. Just saying.
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bobtheflower:
Only work, but I have awesome friends - near and far! I chatted with one for a long time last night, just gabbing'. It's nice sometimes
It also is relaxing, work makes me be 'nice', but still a boss. I 'fired' three people today (sorta?) - and felt a bit off about it. They are awful at the job, and we have no time to deal with them. Still - I feel shitty for having to do it. Nobody likes being fired.
It also is relaxing, work makes me be 'nice', but still a boss. I 'fired' three people today (sorta?) - and felt a bit off about it. They are awful at the job, and we have no time to deal with them. Still - I feel shitty for having to do it. Nobody likes being fired.
sunspun:
That does sound tough The good news is they are probably going to run into opportunities now that they are much better suited for, which is great!.
I have been a little reclusive lately, and as you may have noticed it gets to my head
But it's true, at least I have squirrel. The hotness exists only in your (apparently creative) imagination, but I'm ok with that. I'll take it
The good news is they are probably going to run into opportunities now that they are much better suited for, which is great!. I have been a little reclusive lately, and as you may have noticed it gets to my head
But it's true, at least I have squirrel. The hotness exists only in your (apparently creative) imagination, but I'm ok with that. I'll take it