Is it real? Can you touch it, pick it up in your hands, test the weight, the content...most importantly, can you eat it? Yes, that's definitely the most important
Which also goes to say that,
"Your love should never be offered to the mouth of a stranger, Only to someone who has the valor and daring to cut pieces of their soul off with a knife, then weave them into a blanket to protect you." ~Hafiz