I prefer an alpha, you're much easier to carry on a conversation with since you actually have something to say and not just giggles and smiles. Good luck out there!

Truth be told, older guys are always a better option, alpha or not (sorry younger dudes out there). Men will always be immature, I'm afraid, but at least as we get older we're LESS immature.

Do you normally go to the same places? Or do you mix it up a bit? Maybe try some new places. Every place I've lived the type of people you meet can be remarkably different even just by going next door (example, not necessarily literal. Sometimes literal. Depends on the situation. Pardon my jargon). It could be that you're putting in too much effort. I've seen people do that as well. Sometimes it's best to just kick back, relax and not worry about those things. Thinking about it could cause you to express it visually and perhaps that puts people off. I know I do that one a lot. Well, did. Still sometimes do.

Just relax a bit and don't worry about it as much.

(Pay no attention to this 'older guy' with the salt and pepper hair... lol) Are you asking an honest question or just musing? Yeah - at age 25 there aren't too many guys who are looking for a female Alpha. Remember that guys generally like to 'rescue.' You don't have to come across as a ditz, but if you've got no needs because you've already filled them, you might be coming off as unapproachable. Drunks are just foolish, but perhaps the older guys appreciate where you are mentally. They don't need someone hanging off them. And, what are you terming 'older?' 5 years? 10 years? You don't have to go out with them, but unless they're social clods don't shut anyone out of a conversation. If the ones you're truly interested in see you engaged they'll be more likely to approach you themselves. Not all guys like the 'challenge' of approaching someone who keeps turning everyone away. And if it IS a challenge, what happens if/when they succeed? They move on?

And I have NO idea why I'm getting so deep on a Wednesday morning. lmao.

It's not all men, but yes, it is most. I personally need to feel challenged intellectually by a women for me to truly find her sexually appealing. I like a women to be difficult, otherwise I feel she's not worth the time and I wouldn't feel satisfied.. Physical may first catch my eye, but confidence and intelligence keeps me wanting more and keeps me wanting to keep her.

Maybe it's just my friends and I, but we find Alpha Females awesome... So long as they play video games too.
Well the video games thing isn't a big deal, but point being, we can't stand the quiet shy ones anymore. If we can't hold a conversation with you, you're unapproachable to us.
I guess you just have to look in the right places?