Hugs doll!! It's a big change to live together. How much time do you spend with each other? Maybe you could try to give him a compliment every day and write down the positives in your relationship and about him.

He'll come around, when he does, try to give both of you a break

he finally sent me a text today...i hadn't heard from him since i took him home...he said he loved me so i feel a bit better. i know i need to be a better girlfriend...blah

Are you some one that naturally leans towards self destruction?

yes....i am completely one of those people

Sometimes those types of relationships are best at becoming just friends. I have had these same kind of relationships in the past... If they don't escalate to a nasty break up they usually end up in long time friendships. It's good to have people to knock the ole ego down a few notches sometimes. But if you both really like each I am sure you can find a way to make things work. Patience and compromise are the keys. Good luck to you.