Relationships and Internet Hookups

Okay, so to start off, i'm keeping names away from this story for personal reasons. On hopeful SG member and a regular member. That's broad enough to get the point across.

Anywho, around a month or so I separated with my girlfriend. We had a mutual breakup and we said we would way at least a little while before doing anything with anybody else for you know, a reasonable amount of time since we were still going to live together. (We had a third roommate too).

I found out today many things.
She slept the day after we broke up with my friend after getting drunk for her first time, and then fucked him some more over the last three weeks.

Yesterday, she went off with a member that she on SG and had been talking to for the last month. He lives in Canada and drove down into the states just to hang with her, rented a hotel and she slept with him last night, and is planning on spending the night there again tonight and getting dropped off tomorrow at midnight.

She didn't tell ANYBODY that she was going to hang out with this guy for basically two and a half days. I understand she likes this guy, feels safe with him, but he's 30ish and she's 20ish. (Won't say exact ages, but you get the gist)

So, she wants to date this guy, is convinced that he'd stay with her if she got pregnant but only has known this guy for a month, and fucked him only after physically meeting him after six hours.

It's sinking in, but this is all a lot.
Opinions? (No people people saying "why are you asking for advice on a porn site" blah blah. Well, she met him here, so where better to ask?)

I think this would be better suited for your blog, the Dating Sucks group, or Jerry Springer.

I mean really, since you've disclosed identities in other threads already, it seems more like tattletale drama.

And hey, at least I didn't ask why you were asking for advice on a porn site.

EDIT/ADD: Oh, and using meeting on the Internet or an age difference as an insult or reason to imply danger is just ignorant and immature. Both of those are fairly common now. Update.

You broke up. I am pretty sure that means she is free to fuck who ever she wants. Deal with it man.

I broke up with my xbf, met my new bf on the internet (he's in his 30s, I'm in my 20s), met him in person specifically for fucking. We moved in together 2 months later, and 2 years later we're still together.

Stuff like that happens. XGFs can do whatever they want. Lots of lasting relationships have been formed on this site.

I'm ok with it.

Good to hear. I'm dealing with it a lot better than this morning. It was just out of the blue because none of us had heard of him.

And as for identities in other posts, I've disclosed more than one that would fit them, so it's still private. :

Plus a fucking billion. It's none of your damn business what she does, or with whom.

Yeah, but were still really good friends, live in the same house, and sleep in the same bed.

Still, it would only possibly be your business if she brought someone into the bed while you were still in it.

I'm curious, why did you join SG after you two broke up? To spy on her or...?

get over it. next.

It's still none of your damn business.

Oooh, thanks for letting us know she was a hopeful. That was really relevant.

Well, saying she's a hopeful still doesn't say much. There's how many of those?

And she actually suggested I join SG. She sat next to me as I made my account.
I've already seen what I was waiting to see.

So yeah.

I love the smell of Passive/Agressiveness in the morning.

Nah, me and her are good. : )
I'm saving her potatoes soup at the moment.

my 2 cents here... I met a girl on the internet, got her pregnant and now I am engaged to her and have a one year old son, so I don't think it really matters where she met him. Maybe you have some negative experience with guys ditching girls when they get knocked up, but not all guys are scum bags. Also who are you to take anyone's inventory. She can pretty much do what she wants whenever she wants and she doesn't need to explain herself to you or anyone. Sounds like a tracking device is about to go on her car....

*Deadpan* There is so much win in this thread

i love threads like this. They make my life seem normal.

This is why I watch Springer

His hairstyle says it all really.

Sorry, I actually had to laugh at this one. I agree completely.



Yeah, I'm with everyone else who said "you're broken up, she can do what she wants." I can't exactly say it's healthy to still be living with the girl much less sleeping in the same bed if you're obviously still stuck on her but ... that's none of my business.

One of you needs to move out. And both of you need to stop jumping to move in with people you date. You're only 19. And for the love of God man, at least get her the hell out of your bed until one of you leaves the apartment. She's free to fuck anyone she wants, but it doesn't mean you have to be her castrated body pillow.

When you get old like me you'll see that there is no need to make yourself miserable. If a situation sucks, do something to change it. ASAP.

It's Emo-tastic!

this whole thing is really none of your business nor is it any of ours.
one of you needs to move out. if not out of the house then at least out of the bedroom.
breakups are hard enough, both of you being in the same community like this makes it even harder and posting something like this on the boards is just inappropriate.
time to move on, friend-o.

While I think commenting on his actions is totally appropriate - making personal attacks about his looks is not. Just trying to keep stuff above a junior high level.

Besides, it is pretty "safe" making comments about someone's looks when they don't post any pics of themselves.