Hello everyone again.
Today i decided to actually do the current blog homework for a change so here goes, My secret recipe for love. This is a topic I feel I may know something about being happily married almost 17 years. People used to ask me if I was married and I always responded with "No I'm Happily married and yes there is a difference."
So heres my big secret. Let the other person be/do whatever they want and always be there to support them. There are lots of ways to do this as mentioned in many other fantastic blogs I have read. On thing that always bugged us was the stereotype of getting permissionfrom your significant other to do things. My friends would ask me if it was alright with my wife to go drinking or whatever nonsense we were doing and I always told them I didnt need to ask permission. We (my wife and I for further reference) would just tell each other plans we had made either alone or to do as a couple and if nothing was conflicting with other plans, or leaving are son home alone, thats what we did. If something did conflict, which was rare, simple compromise fixed that. As it turned out we both felt like spending most of our time together so never was much of a problem.
Another way to just let them be themselves is to accept all the small trivial things they do that annoy or frustrate you. We all have our quirks and its your job to pick up the slack so to speak. Thus tends to evolve over the years too as your skills in a certain area increase or even maybe decrease.
Which brings me to my last point, because my bus stop is coming up haha, which is be flexible. Change is inevitable so be ready to roll with the punches. We have been through a lot in our decade and a half together always smiling, being there for each other, and just having a good time. Remember to just be you and let your partner do the same and everything else just falls together. Either that or I was lucky enough to find the best woman ever!!! 😉
Thanks for the blog. Heres a pic of my wife and I on vacation couple years ago.
Thanks again @missy @rambo
Much love Yaoth