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Muahahahahaha!
My sample set is FINALLY FINISHED! Posh has been really busy, so I can't really blame her for taking so long. In her blog she mentioned a new job, my photographer said she had at least 2 other sets in the queue, and back in May, she had her computer go down with some kind of virus. So, honestly, I wasn't mad at her in the least. I was just really anxious to get my friggin' set turned in.

So... my sample 9 are officially turned in. I just have to wait for that email saying "please send the whole set" and I'm in! Forgive my frightening and totally out of character optimism. I'm just all sorts of gleeful at the moment.

My husband got home, and had aparently expected the house to be in absolute ruin. I've done the single mom thing before. It's actually having him around that messes me up usually. So, I had the house mostly clean, had some new furniture (which somehow we couldn't afford when he was around), had pictures and posters up on the walls... In fact, before he left we had a room for storage, mostly dedicated to whatever he didn't feel like putting away at the moment. That is now a TV room. Well, there's a couple of boxes still which I didn't have time to empty. And there's a couple things that got messed up last night after he got home. But all in all I'm psyched.

I got a cryptic and annoyingly vague voicemail from Crash yesterday. I had JUST layed my munchkins down for a nap, and was preparing to get a little sleep myself, and I get this voicemail saying "I'm already in... *static* ... Meet you at *Static*...BX"... *Click*...

Aparently what he SAID was that he was in London and to meet him at the LAKENHEATH BX... I thought he was already at Mildenhall... Stupid Allie.... I freaked out, got the kids up, and drove there all pissed off and sleepy. Bad combo with 3-inches of rain on the freeway. But I got there. No Crash. I waited for nearly 3 hours. Thankfully, the guy giving him a ride had a stop to make, and Crash saw our car in the parking lot.

Saturday night was SO much fun... but I'll have to explain that in depth.

Saturday, my girlfriend Jess (and no, I don't mean girlfriend in the valley-girl sense) had a birthday party for her 4-year-old son. The whole neighborhood showed up, and for whatever reason, MY kids were the only 2 to act up... Normally they're the most well behaved children anywhere I go, and I was at my wits end inside of an hour. After the party, Jess and Calvin asked my mother in law if she could spare me for the night so I could go over there and "play cards"... I've learned this usually means that we'll talk about playing cards, then we'll end up too drunk and we'll let things evolve from there, depending on company.

After dropping my M.I.L. off at the house, and getting my babes in bed, I headed over there, completely forgetting to even bring my magic cards. Well, we played a game called "Shots and Ladders"... Not fun when all the liquor you've got that's shot-worthy is crappy over-aged schnapps. Bleh... I'd rather SAUZA thank you very much. Well, Calvin and I started going at it (which is always a good thing) and Jess started attacking our buddy Chris. We ended up in a tangled knot of writhing nakedness. I did end up doing something I said I wouldn't... or rather someONE I said I wouldn't. Crash was pissed. But I think he's over it. It's not like I tried to lie or hide shit from him. I just misunderstood that he had said absolutely not, because he kept giving me "well, if this and if that" reasons... and none of the ifs pertained. Misunderstanding. Very FUN misunderstanding.

So, I've run into this school of thought a lot lately... and it confuses me. People say things like "I WISH I could have an open relationship like that, BUT I am too jealous"... Maybe it's just that I don't get the whole jealousy thing. I mean, I've experienced it. But I trust Crash. I know that if he was going to leave me for someone else, sex would be the LEAST of my problems. I know that's a weird way to look at it, but here's how I think about Sex and relationships...

1. A relationship built around sex will not last. So don't even bother.
2. A relationship WITHOUT sex only leaves one person or the other resentful, and resentment destroys people. So don't bother unless you KNOW you will NOT be the one resenting your partner.
3. Balance is the key to everything in life, especially relationships. If you always give and never receive, it's doomed. If you always receive and never give back, it is doomed.
4. A little bit of good sex is better than a LOT of mediocre sex. Also, a little good sex goes a LONG way for alleviating other relationship tensions.
5. Monogamy may work for you. But make sure it works for you BOTH before getting married.
6. For those of us who don't do monogamy really well (and yes, I am one of them), honesty is the key to an open relationship. If you lie, hide or do anything without your partner's expressed concent and knowledge, it is CHEATING. Cheaters may win, but not all of the winners are happy with the prize they get...
7. No means No. regardless of if you are in a monogamous relationship or a polyamorous one, or a sexually liberated one, if you are in a RELATIONSHIP at all, you have to respect your partner's wishes. When they say no, step back and re-evaluate.

I could go on and on... But I won't.
I know you're probably sick of my by now anyways. In summation, Saturday night kicked ass. I wore my hubby out to the point of near death last night, and I plan to do the same once I get the kids to bed tonight. Oh, and I have shit to do today, so I'd better go do it!