wsoxfan

It looks like my relationship with Mae-Ann is on life support. A week ago Friday, she told me about things that have been bothering her about us which have been building up inside of her for a while. Without going into detail, I can honestly say that the things she mentioned, even putting them all together, don't seem like relationship breakers to me. She says that she cares about me but feels overwhelmed. We spoke on the phone this afternoon and agreed to talk again tomorrow face to face. From the conversation so far, I'm not very optimistic that the relationship can be salvaged.

I'm confused. I felt that we were good for each other. We were both alone and lonely. We provided each other with companionship and intimacy. I'm far from perfect and carry around my share of baggage, but I've been completely honest about my feelings and my past life. I resent that she held her feelings inside and didn't give us a real opportunity to nip these issues in the bud. I'm both sad and angry.

Mae-Ann and I come from different places in our respective marriages. I had a wonderful marriage that was cut short after 32 years due to my wife's passing. She, on the other hand, was in a very abusive marriage which obviously left her damaged. I'm no expert, but I think that she has trust and relationship issues that could not be overcome.

It's not my intention to place blame or to portray myself as some kind of victim. Mae-Ann is a good woman. Unfortunately, it looks like it wasn't to be between the two of us. This is hitting me very hard. I also feel terrible for my children. They were so happy for me and had a lot of affection for Mae-Ann.

This just sucks all the way around.