I had been talking to this woman I met on reddit. It was a penpals subreddit, so I wasn't looking for anything more than a friend. And it began innocently enough, we just talked about whatever random shit we felt like. Went on that way for a few months before she started getting flirty. I'm bad at that kind of thing, so it took a little while for me to start flirting back. But it got more intense, she sent some pictures, it was really nice. Then suddenly, it stopped. She stopped talking to me almost entirely, and when we do talk, she seems very distant now. Talking to her last night, she asks me for another way to contact me, other than reddit, because she's thinking about deleting it and didn't want to ghost me. I ask why, and she eventually tells me about this guy she had been talking to who just suddenly disappeared on her, and she's tired of dealing with people on reddit.
Now, I'm not upset that she started flirting with someone else. I mean, we weren't anything, so it's no big deal. Fun while it lasted. I'm just curious about the timing.
I've tried to be honest about who and what I am while talking to people. I'm tired of wasting time pretending to be something I'm not. So, it came up in conversation that I'm inexperienced... I've never been in a relationship, never had sex, none of it. And I'm okay with that now. Yes, I want it to happen. But no, I'm no longer beating myself up about it. I'll be okay if it never happens, just like I'll be okay if it does. Not the point, really.
The point is the timing. She found that out about me, and stopped talking to me for a while. I'd get short, uninterested responses when I messaged her, so eventually I just stopped. After about a month, she messaged again apologizing for her absence, and we started talking as friends again.
The point of all of this is that it left me wondering... How important is a man's sexual experience to women? I've heard of the opposite end, where too many partners is a turn off. But is too few a bad thing too? Is it a deal breaker, even in a relationship that's purely online?
Sigh... I do miss the flirting though...