wolfwood

Give me advice: (this is probably going to be a long entry)

People:

Tammy: my friend
Kiki: my friend
Anthony Moore: Tammy's ex
Derek: Kiki's ex

A couple years ago, my friend Tammy started dating this guy, Anthony Moore. She liked him, but she knew he was a huge asshole, although he was nice to her, obviously, because he liked her. So she went through this period fo time convincing herself that he wasn't a huge asshole so she could go out with him. Neither of them had ever dated anyone before, ever, so they were each other's first everything. They went out for about a year, but then she was starting to get sick of him and realized that he was, in fact, a huge asshole, so she dumped him. This was at the beginning of last summer. Before that, they had talked about breaking up, and she and he talked about breaking up and she had done some stupid mean stuff like say they weren't going to break up, or that they would break up right before he left for basic training (he's in the army reserves)--leading him on type stuff-- and then finally she dumped him in the parking lot of my old apartment about five minutes after they had finished helping me move. He thought that they would be together forever and that they were going to get married eventually. Over the summer, he really didn't have anyone to talk to about their breaking up, so she would go over to his house and they would talk and he would cry on her shoulder and stuff. (Really bad idea, obviously). He would email her a lot and say that he loved her and wanted her back and then the next email say that she was a horrible bitch and he hated her. So finally, she cut off all contact with him.

We, along with a bunch of other people I know, have journals on livejournal and deadjournal. Around this time, Anthony, and Derek, and I got in an arguement in my journal about something I had said in my journal, and then I got sick of arguing with them so I deleted all their comments and banned them from my journal. So then they broke into my email and my journal and posted a bunch of stuff as me. So then I made my journal friends only. Derek had also just broken up with his girlfriend, Kiki, who was also a friend of mine, so both of these guys decided that I had made their girlfriends break up with them, because it couldn't possibly be their own fault.

Around this time, Anthony Moore (I saw his full name because I know another guy named Anthony who I talk about on here sometimes and I don't want to confuse the two) left for basic training, so things were okay for when he was gone. However, as soon as he came back, he started bothering us online again. He'd go on different sn's and say shit to me, and then I'd block him, or he'd post stuff in Tammy's journal, and she'd ban him, so he'd get another username and post stuff in her journal again, and then she'd ban that one, and so on. He'd also follow me around in my friends' journals and the communities I go and look for posts or replies I'd made so he could talk shit about me to me (he made a comment in one of these communities that that was what he was doing, but I had suspected him of doing that anyway). (The other guy, Derek, has basically left me alone. He's an asshole, too, but he doesn't follow me around online or anything and I haven't talked to him in months) So now I have to make all my posts everywhere friends only. Also, he does this to other people online, but most of them don't know him personally and/or they don't live in the same city (Anthony, Tammy, and I all live in the same city and go to the same university). So basically, the guy is a big troll.

A couple of weeks ago, he discovered my livejournal, which I promtly banned him from, but I decided not to make all my entries friends only because I'm sick of having to do that all the time, since he's the one doing this to me. I never reply back to his comments, and I usually don't even read them and just delete them. So then he read through all my not friends only livejournal entries and went online last night under some sn talking to Tammy and pretending to be me, but she didn't think it was actually me.

Last year, I saw him twice at school the whole year, and that was because we both had classes in this one building really common building. This year, I've seen him three times in the past two weeks. The first time, he got on the bus I was on, the second time, he got off at the bus stop I was waiting at and the third time I was walking home from school and he was walking down the same side of the street but going the other way. But he's never said anything to me, and I obviously don't say anything to him, or even look at him. As far as I know, he hasn't been following Tammy or me around in real life, or calling us on the phone or sending us letters or anything like that. My phone number isn't in the phone book, but he knows where Tammy lives, and he probably knows where I live or if he doesn't, it would be easy to find out.

So basically, I'm wondering what else I should do, if anything. Online, I emailed the one journal site twice, and they emailed me back the second time asking for some URLs of stuff he's said, so I emailed them that, but they never emailed me back again, so I don't think they did anything. He doesn't follow us around onlinbe 24-7; it's more of an on and off thing. The stuff he says is annoying, but it's not like it really bothers me all that much. It's more of the fact that he's been doing this for over a year, and especially the stuff like reading through my journal so he could pretend to be me; I find that rather disturbing. Tammy's view on the online stuff is basically that we're powerless to stop him and that we just have to deal with it and hope he goes away, which I think is stupid and totally wrong.

But then, it's a lot easier to be a troll online than in real life, and when I've seen him, he hasn't said anything to me, and Anthony isn't dumb enough to think that if he starts doing stuff to us in real life that nothing is going to happen. I told him over a year ago that if he ever bothers me in real life, I'd call the cops on him. But then again, with this stuff now, I don't want to not do anything and then have this escalate into something worse, because he's pretty scary. I've had people bother me online before, but it's like, this guy has personal issues with us, and he knows where we live, and he's in the army so he's been trained how to shoot a gun and how to fight and how to kill people, and most people I would probably have a fair chance against in a fight, or I could outrun them, but like I said, Anthony's in the army and he's always been an exercise freak and has like 1% body fat.

But then, I'm afraid if I go to the cops that he's going to tell them I do drugs or something, and I do, and that they'll search my apartment. Also, I really don't want any contact with the police at all, for anything, and the cops around here do not have a good history with a lot of things, so even if I went to them, and they could do something (I don't even know if there's anything they could do), they might not do it, or they might side with him or something. And he hasn't done anything to either of us in real life yet. But then I also figured he would've stopped bothering us by now, and I really don't like to have to worry about this or feel afraid every time I see him, because I do. So I'm thinking maybe I should just go ask a cop if there's anything they could do, but not give them any names or anything, but I don't know. I kind of want to do that, because Anthony really scares me, but then I kind of think I should wait and if he actually does start bothering me in real life, then go to the cops, but not now.

And it really bugs me because very few people besides Tammy and I seem to take this seriously. Like they just think it's funny or harmless. And it's not. He's a fucking stalker.

So what do you think?