Had great convos with him, listening & feeling intently, for a couple/few days until he passed - seemingly comfortable & without pain - on Sun the 17th.
I stayed & assisted, his funeral held Thurs the 21st, finally returning home on Sun the 24th.
The funeral went wonderfully, if such a thing can be said, the home having fathre looking like himself again
The full military honours - despite the chill & wind - were beautiful & respectful to his 37yrs of service.
My daughters & ex-wife looked great ( I know, I'm baised ) & their assistance the days they were there for the funeral VERY helpful as well.
Aye, the Elder Tom & I won't get to do the Poland trip we'd been talking about for a few years...
and, aye, I still don't fully believe him when he told me he was proud of me.
Aye, it's only been this last decade that the Elder Tom & I finally got along & found a way to see roughly eye-to-eye...
but, aye, it's been a helluva decade that was worth the calls & visits that we were able to sneak into this decade.
Fathre & I were very, VERY different people, our households even MORE different *whew* - and THEN some *Oi!*
...but I did my best to help a little before I headed home, as did the ex-wife, for my sister
I know full well this isn't the "end of the game," so to speak, as things are delved out of the woodwork post-passing
I know I'll be 'hit' again & again as time passed - it's to be expected
BUT I can sincerely hope that going forward it's as smooth a ride as possible
Aye, things will likely return to similar to the years before my Fathre becoming ill last year
...it's only the past year that we spoke 'regularly,' talking once-a-month, roughly, when before we spoke only a few times a year
I expect a return of the same with my sister & her household, whom I spoke to 'regularly' even less
this isn't meant as offense, it's simply how I am...
I have friends I speak to only one a year - or once every few years - that are far closer to me than my sister
visiting them, as with my friends, will be even farther between... again, it's simply how I am...
as well as the fact that I can't just 'drop everything' and go see people... the world, my world, doesn't work that way
few - so VERY few - people live close enough for me to do so
& having not owned a vehicle since '99 & being 100+ miles away from most of them makes for one VERY long walk !
my world centers around my daughters, my job, my life... and at this point in my life I simply can't change it because someone died
...no, not even my Fathre's death, sorry, kids - and, gods no!, I have no intent on moving to ND !
( that's one of the LAST places on my list of states I'd move to - been there, done that, couldn't stand it )
ANYways... Keep Living & Loving Life, My Lovelies & Gentlefolk !
random twittage
1/4 : ...and this year's random vacation dates will be : [pause for effect] - mid-March, mid-May, mid-June, & mid-August ... and, no, no plans are in effect, as it's unaffordable & unattainable this year, I'll be just using up vaca time before it resets again & trying to remain sane
1/10 : taxes complete once again... it's funny looking at tax refund history & how state tax refund continues to get less & less every year while federal slightly rises, excepting the years I got screwed by the N0bamacare Bullshit Fee I'll never get back ( "insurance mandate" my ass )
1/12 (7p) : flying out tomorrow, so hopefully I'll miss the incoming snow storm ( I should, unless it arrives earlier than expected ) ... either way, I'll be headed towards the airport in roughly 12hrs from now for ND
Recent Random Playlist (albums) ::
Cyberpunk 2077 Radio, Vol 3
Mushroomhead - A Wonderful Life
watched recently :
via rental/streaming:
Chilling Adventures Of Sabrina (4th Season)
Wonder Woman 1984
Aqua Teen Hunger Force (2nd Season)
We Can Be Heroes
Looney Tunes (tv)
Avenue 5 (1st Season)
Stargirl (1st Season)
Doctor Who: Revolution Of The Daleks
Star Trek: Picard (1st Season)
Cobra Kai (3rd Season)
American Gods (3rd Season)
WandaVision (1st Season)
Disney's Secret Society Of Second-Born Royals
ownedflix:
The Conjuring
The Conjuring 2
Terminator: Dark Fate
-thom Wolfox sR Rhose, AK/GOT (OOP)
"Keep Living & Loving Life!"
"America needs creation not destruction, cooperation not contempt, security not anarchy, healing not hatred, justice not chaos."
President Donald Trump * June 1st, 2020
amra:
I’m so sorry for your loss 💔 I know you’re a full grown up, but death has a way to shake us, so I’m here for you if you need anything. Stay safe 💜
wolfox:
@amra thank you, very much.