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Take care of yourself

Jul 13, 2015
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“Take care of yourselves, watch the people around you carefully, and cordon off the ones who are toxic, so that the universe can decontaminate them for you through exposure and death.”

-Warren Ellis

This is always very good advice (I’ve written some version of it myself at various times), but it’s especially poignant for me to read it from Warren, now, because I’ve just had to remove a profoundly toxic, dishonest, manipulative, bad, bad, bad person from my life. You’d think it would be easy, but it wasn’t.

So, speaking from experience: it’s not your fault that a toxic person fooled you, even if they fooled you for years. It’s not your fault, and while it is entirely expected that you go through the normal grieving process that is associated with any loss, try not to spend any time blaming yourself for not seeing all the things that you can see now in hindsight much sooner than you did.

Take care of yourself, as Warren says.

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sabbauth:
I'm a great fan of Warren Ellis. Often, the things he says are pretty obvious, but he writes them is such a direct way . May I ask where this quote has been taken from? 
Jul 13, 2015
wilwheaton:
@sabbauth It's from a semi-private newsletter that he sends out once a week.
Jul 14, 2015

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