because i for some reason cannot edit that last entry...
it should read something like this:
there's always the question of whether or not i like the new interface.
guatemalan lady, dyed blonde hair, dark roots, large, expressive eyes and hips at the boiler room last night. she had one of those faces that looked familiar, cliche though it may be. talking to her was nice, chatter about the usual inanities of being out-of-school and directionless and completely devoid of reward.
i guess she was sexy, although i'm not entirely sure, really, because that's been the last thing on my mind for most of recent days. i don't find much of anything alluring, only able to objectify women the same way i make anything else an object, assessing each superficial facade with detched calm.
sex barely exists. i've really become idle, and not for lack of practice (that's perhaps what's most fucked-up). i've tried to make myself feel anything, love, lust, but all i get are occasional resigned moments where i feel something faint, an echo of repressed emotions that have long-since decided to desert my ass for lack of use.
i want my libido back.
it should read something like this:
there's always the question of whether or not i like the new interface.
guatemalan lady, dyed blonde hair, dark roots, large, expressive eyes and hips at the boiler room last night. she had one of those faces that looked familiar, cliche though it may be. talking to her was nice, chatter about the usual inanities of being out-of-school and directionless and completely devoid of reward.
i guess she was sexy, although i'm not entirely sure, really, because that's been the last thing on my mind for most of recent days. i don't find much of anything alluring, only able to objectify women the same way i make anything else an object, assessing each superficial facade with detched calm.
sex barely exists. i've really become idle, and not for lack of practice (that's perhaps what's most fucked-up). i've tried to make myself feel anything, love, lust, but all i get are occasional resigned moments where i feel something faint, an echo of repressed emotions that have long-since decided to desert my ass for lack of use.
i want my libido back.
I'm glad you brought up issues of rape and class. I very much agree with bell hooks when she says our problems with sexism, racism, and classism (and many other problems) come from a "white supremicist capitalist patriarchy". The combinations of all of those things are the direct and indirect causes of all those isms, as well as homophobia. And they are all intertwined, we cannot eliminate sexism without also eliminiating classism and racism.
when I post I definately do often focus on the patriarchy part, mostly for issues of space and the trouble I have trying to tie it all together in a way that people would understand....it's hard for me to describe how I think white supremicist capitalist patriarchy perpetuates rape, for example, in a clear way...and I don't want to just steal from bell hooks and quote her!
Specifically, you seem to direct your arguments toward men on the whole, or at least those you perceive to be components of the general masculine hegemony-
I think being in this nice little bubble at the libeary arts school I'm at means that when I enter into a more stereotypical world I am all the more shocked by sexist, racist, homophobic, and classist attitudes (although you do hear all of those attitudes at my school, unfortunately particularly classist statements) When I go back to my hometown and am near the very fraternity and soritity centered college that is there, I hear all kinds of attitudes that are unhealthy and full of isms. There is particularly a lot of sexism there, many of the frats look at the girls at the school as...well...meat. There was even a book written that mentions a school I know and several others where frats planned to get girls drunk and rape them...it's a fairly common practice, unfortunately. So I see a lot of degrading attitudes and a lot of hatred and fear of women.
I think a lot of the nonviolent rape cases that come from a confusion about who wants what also come from that patriarchal, classist, etc structure. In "towards a feminist theory of the state" catherine mackinnon says that a lot of the times men do not believe that they have commited rape because they are taught that coercion and even some cases of force are acceptable. They do honestly believe that they did nothing wrong, but of course it is not that way to the woman. A lot of those "confusions" would be eliminated if we would teach about what rape really is, and that it is not always violent.